2nd degree tear (episiotomy) how long till sex?

Pearl

I was cut to the side not downwards and she hit a few arteries and it took forever to start to feel better, I’m 5 and a half weeks pp and dying to be able to have sex with hubby but I put some pressure on it yesterday and it’s still really tender I was hoping I’d be good by the 6 week check up when they usually clear you but I couldn’t imagine having sex! Is that normal I’ve seen heaps of other ladies on here say they tire and their having sex by now :(