So this is probably going to sound stupid to most of you, which is fine but I just need to vent. Lately it seems that whenever my bf and I have sex, he cums before me and I don’t cum at all and then we stop.

It doesn’t matter if we go ten mins or an hour. It is very hard to make me cum, I’ll admit to that, it’s always been that way for me. I’ve been more open with him about it and I’ve been telling him what I really like and what I don’t like and he’s been trying. Now, don’t get me wrong, I don’t have to cum every time. I like just being close and intimate with him, I still enjoy it. Its just really frustrating when I’m really turned on and about to cum and then he does and doesn’t even try to finger me after. I don’t why but it just makes me feel used... even though that’s not the case, and hey... women get “blue balls” too.

I’ve told him before that I would like for him to at least try and finger me after he cums so that I can too but he never does. I feel like it’s selfish of him to not even try at least once in a while. I just feel so frustrated that he doesn’t care enough to do that for me, I’m not asking a lot... and when ever he does cum I’m literally on the verge of cuming and I tell him that but he always goes seconds before me. Men always bum when they have sex, if he doesn’t cum from sex, I’ll give him a blow job until he does. Hell, I even just randomly give him blow jobs all the time without anything in return and I don’t mind that, but he never does the same for me. I have to add though, my bf is absolutely amazing to me. He is such a sweet and romantic guy. He brings me coffee in the morning, he tells me I’m beautiful every chance he gets, he’s caring and affectionate, he shows me he loves me every single day. This is just a small struggle I’ve been dealing with. And it’s honestly not a big deal in the grand scheme of things, but still, frustrating none the less.

Am I the only one? I know this is a stupid thing to be annoyed about, I mean it’s only sex... I shouldn’t have to finger myself every time we have sex in order to cum. Any ideas on how to fix this problem? Thanks for listening to my venting...