Hello everyone! This is my first post so please go easy on me.

The reason I'm posting is because I am having a big of a hard time with mine and my husband's intimate relationship. We really only have sex once a month, and we have been trying to make more of an effort but it's been proving difficult.

To give you some background, I have depression and anxiety with panic disorder that is really only managed with a high dose of Zoloft. I switched medications about a year ago because I didn't like that it was affecting my sex drive so much and I was hoping that this medication would be better but so far it hasn't.... I have a very difficult time functioning in normal life when I am not on this medication and every time I have tried to get off of it since being diagnosed it has not ended well. My husband and I are planning on starting to try for our first in August and I know that we are going to need to pick up the pace on the amount of sex we have, but I am having a very hard time getting myself into the mood. This is difficult for him because now he watches more porn than he ever has and is masturbating at least twice a week to said porn.

I know that 90 percent of the issues with this is because of me, and I have tried talking to him about what I like and don't like that will get me in the mood but he always resorts to the same old stuff.

So I am hoping to get some advice as to 1. Ways to get myself in the mood more often than once a month, and 2. Ways to get him to try the things I have told him about that really help turn me on.

Btw, fair warning, we have tried the sexting and dirty talk in our relationship early on and every now and then and he just doesn't do it very well... I've tried to teach him a little bit but he hasn't really picked up on it and now he has his three or four phrases he just always uses.

Any advice is appreciated, sorry for the long post, and please only supportive or constructive comments. This has been bugging me for a while and I can't seem to find a way to fix it.