So I’m 17 and a junior in high school. My mom asked me to go by the pool with her to talk about colleges. I told her I would try to but I might not be able to because of how busy I am (studying, church, etc). I ended up going and after 20 mins of talking about college and 10 mins of arguing I drove back to my dads house.

While we were arguing she was saying how she just wants to spend time with me and I was saying how I don’t want to spend time with her if she’s gonna argue all the time. I want a good relationship with her. I really do, and I can tell she wants one too. I just cannot be in the same room as her without her arguing. She’s a very argumentative person (with other people, not just me) and I’m very honest, meaning our arguments never turn out good.

I’m considering going to live with my dad full time, but I don’t want to do that to her. However, our relationship is that bad. Plus, she legally has majority custody and they’re already going to court with each other about something else.

Do I make an effort to spend time with her? I feel like if I do it will be too forced, I wouldn’t enjoy it, and lead to more arguments. Do I leave her and stay with my dad? I feel like if I do she won’t have any time with me before I leave for college and as much as I don’t want to see her, I don’t want to see her sad.