Am I wrong to be mad?

Question

So im in a 3 yr relationship we've been dstimg since 15/16 now we're 18/19 so we're growing up together and its fun and we're still in love but we have this one reoccurring problem that just doesnt seem to go away and sometimes it makes me want to end the relationship. I know I'm a sensitive person I have been my whole life but his problem is that he's so inconsiderate like he'll say mean things and I have to tell him but honestly he has been working on it and has been more open to my feedback on it. So thats some background my problem today is that last night him and all his coworkers decided to go out at 11:30pm (bc thats when they're all off.) They had gone out together before and I wasn't really upset last time until he still wasnt home and it was already 4am. We don't live together but it made me upset because i know how much his mom worries about him and also he wasn't texting me updates or anything. So when this time came around I told him "please dont stay out too late, I get worried" and he said "I promise ill be home by 3 i wont even go out to eat with them" but in the end he didnt get home until 6:30am and i couldnt sleep because I hadnt been home by the time he said he would and I was worried so I decided to check his location (we share our location with each other in case of an emergency) and he was at someones house???????? I texted him and he said he was just talking to his friend?? At 6am????? It makes me extra mad that he literally ignored his moms calls and text all night and stayed out super late but when hes with me as soon as he recieves a text at 9:30pm to go home he leaves asap. So anyway do I have the right to be mad? Or am i just being controlling? Also want to add that last may he said he was going out with his friends for a school event and it ended up with him at a party without him telling me and him ignoring my calls and text because he knew i would "be mad and ruin his fun" when i was worried that he had been drinking or smoking and he was driving, I have already forgiven him for this so its unfair for me to get mad over it again but it just shows exactly to what extent this goes to.
Ps. Im sorry this is so long I'm not the type of person fo vent often :(

Answer

Hmmm, that’s a lot of red flags there. I don’t hound on my bf on what he’s doing or where he’s at, since he usually tells me and wants to reassure me that he’s okay and just with his friends doing this and that. I would sometimes be a little worried and want to make sure he makes it home safe. I get where you’re coming from, but it seems like he doesn’t understand where you’re getting at. I would have a serious talk with him ASAP. He should at least keep you and his mom on tabs on what he’s been up to. I’d be worried if my son was out there that late, god knows what goes on out there. You have the right to be upset, but try to communicate with him so that he could at least get a better understanding of what you are saying. And what you just said on here is perfect and can be used on why you’re feeling this way. I don’t like the fact that he’s going from one place to the other without letting you know and I’m not sure why he thinks it’s a good idea to just run around without telling you anything, because who knows what he could be doing. I hope both of you come into terms soon, because this doesn’t sound right at all for him to be doing those things very late/ very early in the morning. If he doesn’t get the idea nor try to work it all out with you, then it’s best to just break it off with him. ONLY if it gets to that point, but rn, try to talk to him. Be blunt with him, most guys acting like this need a serious wake up call. I wish you the best of luck hun🙏🤞

Am I wrong to be mad?

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