JUST NEED TO RANT

LONG POST; JUST NEED TO VENT 😭

I’m a first year university student, and over time, my roommate’s true colors as a selfish, inconsiderate, and irresponsible individual has shown.

At first the issue only started with me, back in December, which we seemed to solve in a civil matter, and it didn’t seem as the issue would happen again.

Then, the issues she causes spread to my other roommate, and then a suitemate, and so-on so forth. We ignored it for a while, but it got to a breaking point of my roommate getting terrible anxiety just thinking of her, and we needed to make a change.

The stuff that happened between my two roommates isn’t what I want to rant about though, because we’ve confronted her about that issue, we’re waiting for change and for a difference in the way she treats other.

As for me? It’s possible she’s disrespecting me on purpose.

In December on a Friday night (RIGHT before finals) she was talking shit about me in her native tongue to her friend on the phone. I wasn’t just making assumptions, I am very well versed and familiar with her native language and understood everything she was saying about me. She has a right to complain, at that point in time, I’d developed a routine (still is my routine) of calling my long distance boyfriend before I went to sleep.

She was shit talking (she claims she wasn’t... but she was) me and the fact that I do that, was making fun of/mocking our relationship and the things we say to each other, and I understood it all. And it hurt. I have terrible, awful social anxiety, and in the eleven week period that I’d been living with these girls, it took me eight-ish weeks to finally feel comfortable and come out of my shell. She pushed me right back in. I went back home, crying sobbing, not knowing what to do.

I confronted her, we talked about it, and I did my absolute best to make change and accommodate toward her. I would speak extremely quietly on the phone, or leave the room if I had to while she was studying. I was nothing but gracious.

The next quarter rolls around, and I’m someone who is very efficient with time. I start my homework or whatever necessary work I need to do as soon as I come back from my last class, and she sits in her bed for 5 hours watching kdramas or some other shows.

She complains. She complains that she has so much work and not enough time, she complains that she doesn’t get enough sleep, sometimes, we have the same assignment due on the same day and proceeds to tell me about how I’m so lucky I finished early while the entire time it took me to finish, she was all about funny business.

And she has the AUDACITY to complain about me being on the phone in my leisure time in our shared room while she’s studying and it being too loud and too annoying, when she laughs unnecessarily loud in the time that I spend studying. The moment I go down for my leisure, she decides it’s a great time to study and now I have to accommodate to her despite her never accommodate to me.

She said she would change but she never thought she was in the wrong in the first place. When I’m gone, she tells my roommate she’s so glad I’m not there and she can do whatever she wants, she blasts music (my other roommate is STILL there and STILL trying to study) and throws her shit on my desk like she owns it.

This is such a small amount of how toxic she’s been, if I were to tell you everything, it would be a novel.