Does this make me a bad mom?

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I’m a stay at home mom and I very rarely get breaks, even when my husband is home. I cook, clean, take care of our son and dog, make sure bills are paid, get everyone to dr appointments on time, etc. I basically run the house and family. Sometimes our son will just scream, he doesn’t need to be changed, he doesn’t want his jumper or activity center, he’s not hungry, He doesn’t want to be held, everything I can think to check and try doesn’t work. He can’t speak so I can’t ask him what he wants, he’s 8.5 months. On a few occasions now I’ve bout lost my mind with the constant screaming/crying and will put him in his crib with a bottle and some toys, shut the door and wait till he either stops or passes out. It’s about the only time I can get everything else done/get a small 5 minute break. Does that make me a bad mom?

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No! You are doing the best thing for your baby by giving yourself a break. As long as he doesnt need anything you are fine, you aren't neglecting him. I have been there. And it's hard to listen to them cry, but you have to get yourself together. 
You'll make it mama!

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Nope ! Sounds like you are doing great ! Sometimes babies need to just calm themselves down. As long as he doesn’t need anything I think it’s ok to let babies cry sometimes ! And it’s Probalby better to take a few mins to calm yourself too !

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I can’t believe 11% said yes! Screw those people!
Your doing great! I’ve had pediatricians actually tell me to do that during moments like that. It keeps us from going insane, and gives the kid/baby time to settle or sleep or just get it all out.

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Sounds like you’re doing alright to me. You have to take care of yourself mentally to be able to take care of him. 
Of all his needs are met and he’s still not happy then it’s not gonna make a difference if he’s screaming in your arms or screaming in his bed. 
You put him in a safe space and walked away, you’re giving yourself the mental break you need and that’s ok.

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Hell no it doesn’t. Sweety, I was 19 with a 2 yo boy and newborn twin girls. I was losing my fuhken mind!!! The only way I could stay sane was if when my girls were acting up, to put them in their crib and just lock them up in their room and put a movie on for my son in my room. Sometimes they just need to cry/scream like we do lol. It’s all normal just don’t lose your shit and beat them. Best of luck to you momma bear 💕

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No, that's definitely better than harming your child. Personally, I would focus less on everything else and try to find a rhythm that works for you and your little one. I've found that a bath or going outside can help with incessant crying. Pay your bills, but the house work can wait. Just do the needful and hang in there. It won't be like this forever.  Best of luck!💕

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Nope. Sounds like this may be working for both of you!

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This absolutely DOES NOT make you a bad mom! Kids go through an extra clingy/testing limits phase around 8-10 months and do this, it’s normal. When my son went through it he was happy as long as he was in the same room with me. My daughter is 9 months now and I put her in the exersaucer literally two feet away from me while I was cooking dinner last night and I kid you not, the child screamed bloody murder and poured tears out of her eyes like a faucet every time I turned to check on the steak I was cooking and stopped looking at her. 😱 She was happy as a clam as soon as I turned back and talked to her. Drama queen to the MAX. Sometimes you need to save your sanity and letting them learn to calm themselves or that being away from you is not the end of the world is a good thing. I had to do the same when Little Miss Dramatic kept me up from midnight-2am the other night. She didn’t want to come to bed in my room, she didn’t want to be cuddled, she didn’t want to sleep with me, she just wanted to yell at me. So I slept on the couch and let her yell. She finally fell back asleep at 3am after several stretches of yelling/not yelling to see if I was going to pay attention to her.

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No, I do exactly everything you do. I run the house while the hubby works. It’s hard work & I know how you feel but trust me, your not a bad mom. You just get overwhelmed & instead of doing something you’d regret I think your doing the right thing but walking away. I have two kids now, and my second is just like that! If you know nothing is wrong with them then let them cry. They will be fine, if they are fed, diaper changed & not sick then letting them cry like that once in a while will not hurt them. Don’t down yourself, being a stay at home mom is one of the hardest jobs because you never know what’s wrong or right & it takes a lot of dedication & love to keep everything going smoothly! Your doing great! I personally don’t recommend giving a bottle in the crib ( but that’s me! ) that’s your baby & as long as your not hurting your LO then your doing a fine job mama

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I feel like am about to snap one day when my 19 month old refuses all food except for sweets...... I know the feeling

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