My boyfriends mom, Part 1 😑😑

Hi everyone!!!! before you judge me, call me immature etc !!!!PLEASE READ UNTIL THE END.

My boyfriend seems, to me at least, to be a mommas boy. She seems to be overly attached to him/ annoying at times. But reminder, I’ve never been openly rude to her. 👌🏼

(Please note DISCLAIMER, we’re over 18, have been together for 3 years but he still lives with his parents but has a car, job etc.) 😑

Whenever my boyfriend stays over, weekdays/the weekend, she calls or texts to say goodnight, good-morning, good afternoon and random calls throughout the day to ask what we’re doing, where we are, what we did that day, etc. She gets mad if he doesn’t send a good morning/goodnight text. I’m almost WORRIED that it might be this way once we live together? I guess everyone has a preference but I do not like my “men” I guess I’d call it, to be a mommy’s boy. I know some people will disagree and see nothing wrong with this, & that is OKAY. 🥰 I feel like there’s almost maybe a LIMIT as to where things get from mother & son to being a little overboard and weird?

She’s taken photos with him where she tells him to put his arms around her waist & he stands behind her, as if maybe like a prom type of style photo? I’m not sure. She calls him “papi” which I know in the Spanish culture is just being kind/nice not trying to be weird but to me, i know it’s her kid, but it is at times. The other day in the car, he was upfront & she was driving, I was clearly in back, she randomly started to rub his hands & thank him for coming along to an errand with her.

It’s a little annoying when we’re having our time together on the weekends/ his days off and she calls or keeps texting him while were out but I feel like if I say anything to him about it, he might think I’m being rude/ a bitch etc. There’s been times we’re out at the mall etc and she sends text after text to buy an item online. Or other times where she’s just telling him her day, her stomach hurts etc stupid little things 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️ I understand that texting him and calling him is fine, again I’m not trying to seclude him from anyone or anything, just lessen the grip he has onto her, me and my mom are very close and always talk and I know that’s important 👼🏻💓 I’m not openly rude to her or anything of that sort, I’m nice to her whenever we’re around each other and I still go to his house at times to just chill over there or what not. (She has friends, her husband, kids & work friends, goes out all the time to clubs and bars etc)

I just feel a little annoyed whenever she constantly calls or texts him and he always listens if she wants something done, example: furniture built, help with her phone settings, just to come home etc. I realize to some people this might seem like I’m obsessive over him, maybe even toxic for him but there’s always more to the story then I’ve chose to include ^^^ at the end of the day, I feel like it’s a little like it’s time to let the bird 🐦 leave the nest. To cut the umbilical chord from mommy.

The other night, when she called my boyfriend & I to come pick up his little siblings, on a Saturday at 9pm, we went & left where we were, we got there for his parents to be able to go out and drink, and us watch the kids, I then found out later on in the week that she told one of his younger siblings that she thinks I’m rude and she won’t be “cooking for me anymore” because she said that I was “mean” im sure this isn’t the first time she’s talked about me to his younger siblings, this is just a time where I found out/ got told that by the younger sibling.

Mind you, I didn’t do anything, act any way etc I was nice, said hi like always and didn’t give off any type of rudeness. I never do. We’ve been on trips all of the family, holidays all together, summer days where we all go to a beach together etc

There’s been times where I’ve been bitchy and quiet, in a mood when we’re out with his mom because I feel like she’s all over him and almost makes me forget I’m there. He has gotten mad multiple times about the fact that whenever we’re all together (us & his family) that is can never be good. I really was feeling the idea of moving to Florida with him once we have enough savings and everything but when he mentioned this to his parents his mom was saying it’s not a good idea due to the minimum wage being so low, I just want to be with Warner weather 🤷🏻‍♀️

I really hope that no one is disrespectful in the comments & maybe someone else is going through the same thing or similar, if anyone has any advice on what I should do, something they have done, kind words for me, thoughts, opinions etc they’ll be gladly appreciated (: 💓🥰 I think I added almost everything I want to be in this post but Incase I feel the need to add more I’ll just edit this! 💓 if you got to this part, thank you sooooo much for reading, sorry for taking up your time & I hope you leave a comment. 🥰 mean or nice thank you!

EDIT I FORGOT TO MENTION TO YOU ALL THAT I MYSELF HAVE A PARENT IVE LOST WHEN I WAS A YOUNG KID AND UNDERSTAND PARENTS ARE IMPORTANT AND TO CHERISH THEM, ALSO FORGOT TO MENTION SHE HAS CHEATED ON HIS DAD AND TELLS MY BOYFRIEND THESE DETAILS AS IF THEYRE FRIENDS NOT PARENT & CHILD, SHE TRIED TO TAKE THE DADS TAX MONEY FOR HERSELF, SHE DRESSES VERY YOUNG FOR HER AGE AND SOME THINGS ARE A LITTLE WEIRD, ^ NOT ALL OF THOSE ARE IMPORTANT OR EVEN IN AN UNDERSTANDABLE ORDER BUT FELT LIKE MENTIONING!