Toxic Family Issues..

I’ve recently accepted the fact that my family is the issue in my life. And before I’m judged instantly, here’s my reasoning for why I feel the way I do..

I have 3 main toxic people in my family that have always influenced me to keep me under their “control” as I call it. Those 3 are.. My mom, my middle sister and my oldest niece (who is also my middle sisters daughter)

This trio are the only ones in the family that spread everyone’s dirt, drama and puts anyone and everyone in the middle of stuff when they feel they’re losing control over them. We’ve all had a rocky relationship growing up and honestly I thought we all grew up and moved past it.

Everything was some what good until I moved into my new place last year (January 2018)

When I moved in my 17 year old niece at the time, was “forced” by her mother to help me move for punishment.

Let’s go ahead and get this out here now, my middle sister is a manipulative mind game playing, mental and physical abuser. Always has been always will be. She went through her drug phase and all that but now she’s portraying this “mom of the year/perfect lifestyle” all over social media for attention.

Anyways, my niece begged me not to let her go back. Sobbing. Telling me everything her mother was doing, she was suicidal, and she was desperate or a way out. I called my mom and spoke with her as what I should do. My mom and dad both said that since she’s considered an adult in the state we live in, it’s her choice and hers alone.

So we went through all that drama, I opened my doors to her and when my sister found out my mom acted like she had no idea so she wasn’t involved and of course all hell broke loose. We managed through that and got to mutual terms.

Then my mom got severely sick and needs a kidney transplant. At that time I was weighing between 278-290 and knew I was a match. I went and had bariatric surgery done so I could give this woman a kidney and ever since then she has belittled me, treated me like shit, been severely hurtful with things she says, and is just awful when it comes to my personal life Choices with dating and anything else. I have had nonstop medical issues, have had a few close calls that were severe and she says I shouldn’t even be having any issues since I had that surgery and if I did this or that then I would be just fine.

Now onto my niece, She’s now 18, works barely 20hrs a week at mcds and goes to high school still. And pays 100-150 every 2-3 weeks for her portion of the rent. I’m sole income of the house hold. She does not help me clean, so dishes, trash. Nothing. But since I’ve gotten into a new relationship and he has 3 kids, that she does NOT deal with, but because she can’t walk around naked all day and she can’t spend 2 hours in the bathroom on the toilet, I can’t have my company over because she is “stressed out” with them being there even tho she’s in her room 24/7, gaming and getting stoned. She turned around and blabbed to my mom and sister a bunch of shit which made them hate him without them even meeting.

All hell broke out in my kitchen when my sister tried manipulation on me in-front of him and he called her out. Now none of us are speaking, I’m not allowed to have company over.. nothing.

With the way I see it is, the only way there’ll be peace is if I stay single. How is that even close to being fair to me? Especially when every time I find someone new they are digging up dirt on them, trying to find fault at all times then talk shit when I’m around

Maybe I’m overreacting but I’m so close to just uprooting myself and moving out of state as far away from them as possible without telling anyone where I’m going.

That’s how done I am with my family. 😩