Ok so I know I already posted about this before but I’ve been seeing a lot of women on here talking one second about how awful their man is but still end up staying. I posted a while back about my previous relationships and how my ex was abusive in every possible way you can go on my page and look for my fiancé saved my life and read about it cause I’m not gonna sit here and tell that story again because #1 it took a loooot of space when I told it in its entirety last time and #2 I’m here to talk to the women like me today. Today marks the 8 year anniversary of the day that picture above happened I was looking on my Facebook at today’s memories and saw this i saw how I posted that I’d fallen and hit head, I saw how in the comments people knew the truth already and when they’d accuse my ex I’d get defensive and defend him and it just really hit me hard. WHY why did I defend him why did I let people think I fell and that happened? I’ll tell you why because I was in denial, denial that I was in a marriage like that, denial that I couldn’t change him cause boy I thought I could, denial that anyone really knew the truth or would even believe me because he was so good at lying and the top 2 things first I was scared of coming clean it was him but more so I believed I deserved it and it was all my fault. I think that’s the hardest thing to over come when your in a relationship like that, they make you feel like every argument, every fight, every issue, every slap, kick and punch you deserved because you caused him to get angry somehow but I’m here to tell you NONE of that is true that’s the train of thought an abused woman has and you have to break it you have to look from the outside even seek others opinions and if others say it’s not you it’s him trust them because you just can’t see it right now but sweetie I promise one day you will and just like me you’ll look back and feel so stupid for ever thinking it was your fault or you deserved it. Don’t push the ones that are trying to help away and don’t ever believe it’s your fault or that you deserve it. If ever anyone wants advice or needs to talk I’m here day and night just private message me on glow and if your in one of those relationships right now and want to talk to be safe turn your glow notifications off so your significant other doesn’t see please let me help I’ve been there done that