I have two kids now..... HOW DO I DO THIS?

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So, my daughter will be 3 April 14th and we just had a son on March 19th.
HOW? How do you do this? How do you balance? When do you sleep? Eat? Poop? Shower? Breathe?! Ahhhhhhhhhh
I’m overwhelmed. But also so in love. Any quick survival tips are welcome. 
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1. Give yourself space. For a while nothing will happen on schedule. I had my Belle on 2/6, and she joined Addie who is 3 on 4/25. We were left alone day 5. I stashed low snacks Addie could get to and a lot of them, then showed her where they were the night before. It was her own special stash that she could get to if mommy was stuck. Breakfast didn’t happen until 10, lunch around 130, and nap around 2 (usually breakfast is 8, lunch 12, nap 1). It’s okay if the schedule goes out the window for a couple of weeks. We’re back on it mostly. 
2. Movies. Seriously. We usually limited our toddler to 30/60 min a TV a day before baby, if any. Now, if I need to do something, I get the baby either in her swing or asleep in the crib, set up the monitor, turn on a movie (Tangled for the 50th time?) and let her watch it until I am done. Luckily she’s pretty good about letting me turn it off and restart it later. So cooking food, cleaning, showering, etc. it all happens in fast 15 min bursts with movies. 
3. Include your toddler. Addie adores her sister. She also loves feeling like a good helper. She will run little errands for me if I am stuck nursing (go grab mommy’s water! Quick grab a burp rag!) She also does a great job of entertaining her sister. 7 weeks in and sometimes rather than a movie I can put Belle in her floor gym and Addie will just chatter away. They love each other. But make sure you also make special times with your toddler. They don’t have to be huge, just recognized and loved. Big hugs and kisses. Quick playtimes while the baby is asleep. Cleanup parties together. 
4. Rely on your husband. As soon as mine gets home at 530, if I can I hand him the newborn, then he takes over while I cook dinner. Or he cooked dinner (okay ordered pizza...) during cluster feeds. Luckily mine is very supportive. 
Good luck! You can do this momma!

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I feel you! My girl will be 3 on april27. And my boy is only 4 months... It's hard sometimes I'm not gonna lie, but I wouldn't trade any minute of it.

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Oh i had my 2nd 18 months apart...i remember like it was yesterday! The first 6 MONTHS i felt like you & couldnt even see the light at the end of the tunnel.  But they are 1.5 & 3 now & things have gotten SO much better ❤️. 
I agree with other moms, include your older child as much as possible & let her help. 3 year olds seem to love to be helpful! If all else fails & you really need a little time to do something, cartoons can be your best friend. 
Take any & all help anyone is willing to offer! I used to be like “oh no its okay” & let my pride get in the way. After baby #2 i was begging people for help! Lol be a “yes” woman! & delegate easy/semi easy tasks to your significant other. They can handle more than we think especially when push comes to shove. 
Finally, (im still working on this one) only do the bare minimum you need as far as household chores to keep your sanity. If that means clean dirty dishes, but the laundry is still sitting around, so be it! Learn to be ok with it & instead spend your time taking in the moments with your babies that will seem so fleeting later on. 🥰 best wishes for the difficult times to pass quickly for you!

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I'm due in September and nervous about having two as well!  What was I thinking when I agreed to this!? 😅

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I'm in the same boat. I just had my son yesterday and my daughter will be 3 on the 7th. I'm pretty nervous for when I'm left alone with both of them!

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I am in the same boat

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My oldest turned 2 on April 19th last year and her baby sister was born on May 22nd. It was a little rough, but my best advice is to have someone else around to play with her and give her attention while you are dealing with baby. Also, invite her to be around as much as your sanity can handle it, like when you are feeding or changing baby, so that she can feel included. Just remember, this too shall pass, have as much patience as you can and don’t be afraid to ask for help!

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