What should I do???

A year and a half ago I had massive depression and anxiety so bad I couldn’t leave my room because I swore someone would kill me if I stepped out doors. I have worked my ass off to pull myself out of hell and I am still working at it every single day. In the worst of it all I made a promise to myself, that if I got better I will get my life on track. I would get a better job, I would work my ass off, and in three years or so I would put a down payment for a house. I was in my own little bubble, I was working on myself, and that promise has kept me going.

But as we all know life had other plans. An old flame of mine spontaneously threw himself back into my life, and I love that he did that but now I’m stuck. Having him in my life and having a relationship with him completely throws me off track.

Is it selfish of me to ask him to respect those promises even though I start a relationship with him? Because I understand that relationships are about working towards a goal together but I want to do this thing by myself and start a life with him after? What should I do?? Comment please!