My spouse has depression and works very hard to manage it. (he is seeing a therapist biweekly). However, he still “cycles”- he will have about 3 weeks where he is motivated and helpful and very loving and attentive and then for about a week to ten days he isolates himself, will hardly talk to me, hardly touches me, doesn’t want to go out, doesn’t want to really eat, stops cleaning and helping with our babies, etc. I know it’s not his fault and that he isn’t choosing to act this way. I know that it’s probably just as hard on him as it is me. But- as selfish as it is to say- I struggle a lot during these periods. I feel so lonely and like a single mom. He is in the military so I don’t have any family around to help. I feel unattractive because some nights he won’t even kiss me because he is just so out of it. I know I’m having a pity party it’s just been so hard to cope with. Especially when I’m trying to carry the whole family and this happens every few weeks on top of our normal stresses (work, kids, bills, chores). Any advice?