Miscarriage and lost friends.

One of my friends just completely disappeared when I miscarried. Telling me that she was too stressed with work and paying all her own Bill's for the first time. She made time for her other friends and avoided me and then got mad at me when i called her out. She was going to be our babys godmother and I'm so hurt that she distanced herself so much and didnt want to be close to me or try to help me. I didnt even want to talk about the miscarriage or have too much emotional support, I just wanted a friend that showed up and showed me that I was loved and not a worthless and useless thing. Makes me almost feel like she was happy for our baby for a plaything and not for me and the expansion of our family.

I guess grief shows you who is really there for you? I wish I could make more friends that were willing to be there for me and reciprocate friendship. Not keeping score but when you spend all your energy on friends and they cant be there for you when you need some support its exhausting. I love helping people and friends, but that doesn't mean I don't need help too sometimes.

EDIT: firstly, right after the miscarriage, like that same week, she went from having weekly or every other week get togethers to not hearing from her for 3 months. We kept inviting over and over, and didnt want to burden her with all her emotional needs because she was having a hard time so in the beginning we didnt mention that we needed her to come around because of the miscarriage. We told her after another 2 months of not responding to our invitations and messages how much it was hurting us that shes not showing up as a friend at all and that we dont need her to do much more than please show up every once and a while. She told us we needed a therapist and it wasn't her problem to handle our grief. We didnt want her to handle our grief (as we said multiple times) we just wanted someone to be there and have a good support system to lean on for some normal things and normal hang outs.

I understand she had some stress going on but when you're friends with someone you help them and having almost no check ins after something that hard? I mean, maybe its selfish of me to think I deserved someone to reach out to me just even for something normal. But all communication ceased!