OK so a little backstory. I recently moved pretty close to my mother 30 minutes away to be exact. We used to live over eight hours away. When we live so far away she used to tell me how unreasonable my mother-in-law was for not coming over to our house and making us come to her because we live 40 minutes away. I always used to vent my frustrations to my mom that I was the one having to travel with a newborn and then a toddler in the car for so long (for a child). My mom would always agree and say that if she lived that close she would come see me every day (she’s always been a stay at home house wife as has my MIL).

Now my real question: now that we live so close my mother refuses to come over to our house. We live 30 minutes away from her which is closer than we live to my mother-in-law but she complains that it is so far and it is inconvenient for her to come over. She says that our son likes to be at her house better so why not just come over there. My husband and I have our anniversary dinner on Sunday and I already cleared it with my mom that she would come over and babysit at our house since we are in the midst of potty training (she has known about this for two weeks) now a few days before hand she’s telling me that she’ll have my dad come pick our son up and bring him to her house for dinner then drive him back to our house for bedtime - since she doesn’t want to cook in my kitchen. I am absolutely going to lose it - in the year and a half that I’ve moved back closer to her she has been to our house twice. Once to help us move-in and another time because I was making dinner for everyone and invited my whole family.

Do I have the right to be annoyed with her? Especially after her attitude towards my mother-in-law for always making me drive? Or am I just being a bitch and need to suck it up because at least she’s spending time with our son?