Im 23 and will be a FTM. (Kinda long rant)

So my mom got upset with me today when i told her I didn’t know if I wanted her in the actual room with me when I delivered my boy. That I don’t really want a bunch of people crowding me and she said “well until you’re actually pushing, you will be alone” and so I said “okay that is fine idc if you are there but I still don’t want people gathering around me when I’m actually giving birth. It’ll confuse me and make me uncomfortable. But i just don’t know right now Mom.” And she got visibly upset and in a different tone asked me what type of food I wanted at my baby shower next Sunday. And I was just going to buy it myself so I said “I don’t know yet. I was thinking of going to the store, looking and buying things” and in the same different tone said “no I’m already buying it so what do you want.” But in a rude way. She already was being pissy with me yesterday because I’m 36 weeks pregnant now and I told her that I’m not working pass this weekend (I work at her restaurant and slow season is starting) Due to having super swollen feet and going to my internship the other 4 days I’m not working for 8+ hours as a Vet Tech and she got huffy with me saying how she worked until she gave birth to my little sister and how she “made” my little sister work on thanksgiving when she was 32 weeks pregnant 😒 yet I don’t have any days off at all AND I’m on my feet ALOT???

I don’t see why she is being so rude to me the last two days and acting like I HAVE to have her in the room with me when I’m giving birth??? I already don’t want to go to a hospital BECAUSE of how many people will be gathered around my exposed vagina. I already barely want my boyfriend there 🤦🏻‍♀️ I just wish I could give birth by myself without other people but obviously I can’t do that 😓 I’m not attached to my mom like my little sister is. (I’m the second oldest of 3 girls) and my lil sis had her in the room with her while giving birth to my nephew. Like the middle child syndrome is so real in my family so my mom gave all her attention to my older sister (at first) and then little sister (she is spoiled by my mom since we are only a year apart) so I just never got attached to my mother, I was more attached to my older sister.

Sorry this is sooo long. But I don’t know what to do about my mom. So I wanted to see how many women are actually having their mothers in the room with them. She has done a lot for me and I love and respect her but I just don’t feel comfortable having so many people in the room with me.