Before I get started I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year next month, and leaving him is not an option, I love him very much. Here’s my situation, I’m the instigator, always, it’s a common thing for him to tell me to “calm down” every day after only giving him a few kisses on the cheek or neck, he says he “can’t handle it”.

Often when he gets home from work on weekdays, we watch his fav tv show and he’s always so sucked into it, I will literally have to wait for the episode to be over before I even can make a move or he doesn’t even react, unless it’s telling me to..... calm down 🤨 But by the time he watches 3 one hour episodes of his show, it’s 12-1am and he’s tired, sore, or tells me to calm down. There’s never any foreplay when we have sex, unless it comes from me :(

No neck kisses

No making out

No oral

I don’t think he’s ever even fingered me. I’ve had the conversation with him twice but both times he told me “his tongue doesn’t do what he wants it to do” when I’ve asked if he doesn’t like giving me oral. In our year relationship I’ve gotten oral twice, both times were because I brought it up.... ☹️ i always comply to what he likes because I love him more than anything. it’s not like he’s not sexually attracted to me but I’m getting really sad because i have so much pent inside of me that I want to express, and I can’t help but tear up a bit writing this whole thing because I wish I could just figure out why he doesn’t like to do these things..... with me. 😞