My daughter is having her transition week since Monday and she hates it. The longest they were able to hold her was 2,5 hours. This is our first time at daycare but ahe had sitters for half day since January so she is kind of used to being away from me. But We keep getting called to come pick her up cause apparently she sits at door and cries or refuses eating and drinking. She joins activities too though cause they send me pictures of it so I don’t understand what is exactly going on🤷🏻‍♀️ They give me mixed information. Yesterday I dropped her and told them I have a dentist Visit across the street. I called them around 11am and they said she is fine. Dentist offered to remove two of my wisdom teeth and said I am good to go in an hour tops! Which was bullshit! I had to call my huaband to

Come pick me up cause I was heavily sedated. Anyhow I trusted both Dr and daycare and said let’s do it! They put me on sedatives and 30mins later I woke up my eyes but couldn’t move and got this phone call from my husband that he is coming to pick our daughter up first because daycare said she is creating a fire hazard by sitting at the door all the time. However when we go there to pick her up they said she refused lunch and water that is why they had to call us! The lunch is between 11:30-12:00 and they called my husband at 11:38. Of course I figured all that after 6 hours once the sedatives wore off. So I couldn’t question them at the moment.

Daycare was very confident when we first signed up, now they are telling me that she is one of those rough transitioning babies and they seem helpless!

I don’t feel like they are smart enough honestly. I told the teachers everything she likes, I said daycare to have extra help in the class during first couple days until she gets used to. They say they do everything they can but it doesn’t seem like that. 8 mins of trying for lunch is not enough for that. This is the first daycare in the neighborhood that had a spot since last October. We live in Manhattan and daycares are impossible around us. We pay $500/ week, it is not a cheap one either. We have no friend and no family who can help. I promised to be back to work next week! I feel awfully helpless and don’t know what to do🤷🏻‍♀️ We are moving in 6 weeks to a better neighborhood and I will interview 4-5 daycares next week but until then I am helpless😕

!!UPDATE!!

After discussing everything with daycare again they tried a little harder on our 4th&5th day and managed to keep her until after nap time but she still cries a lot. When I went to pick her up yesterday after nap her bed sheet was wet of all the tears, teacher said she fought for the nap🤦🏻‍♀️ It was devastating to see that bedsheet like that. She became extra clingy to me and breastfeeding recently and I try to limit that as much as possible but I still don’t feel that daycare is doing its best. The teacher is just...let’s say “not smart enough” She stares at me with empty eyes every time I try to come up with a plan. Unfortunately I am stuck with them cause couldn’t find any sitters in just short notice and the ones I found almost double the price. I am back to work 3 days a week and my husband will work 7to 3pm on those days so we can leave her as short as possible. This is the best we have come up with🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️