about 2 weeks ago, my now ex boyfriend broke up with me out of the blue. we had a very good relationship but both of us struggle mentally and my boyfriend more than anything at the moment. he has a huge amount of stress on his plate and when he broke up with me he said that he’s gonna work on himself and then we’d get back together. he said he loves me and always will, and i love him as well. the first week after the breakup he was how he usually is, very sweet and he’d always text me. i saw him a few times in person because i still couldn’t wrap my head around the breakup and i got anxious that we were done permanently. we’d talk and he’d reassure me that he just needs time alone to figure out what’s going on with him and he also wanted me to focus more on school since it’s my last year of high school. he is in his first year of college and has his final projects coming up now. but over the break up, i noticed he literally wouldn’t stop going out and doing a bunch of stuff with his friends. at first it made me happy cause in our relationship we hung out a lot and both of us forgot we had other friends.. him and i are extremely close, he’s my best friend as well. but his friends are also into drugs and shit, and since he has been hanging out with them more, he picked up vaping and it bugs the shit out of me. (he once vaped for a meme and said he wouldn’t do it again cause it bugged him as well. all the stuff he said he wouldn’t do he’s doing again, like drinking..) he isn’t into anything like that and i’m worried it’s gonna turn into more. he also didn’t want me to know about the vaping but he vapes so much when he streams his video games. and he doesn’t know i still watch his streams.. i noticed he had a sudden change in his personality and behaviour.. i cut contact with his for like 3 days but when i found out he was doing all of this stuff, i asked to see him and talk. it didn’t go well. it felt like i was talking to a stranger, and he was very emotionally dead. he told me he doesn’t see himself dating me again, and i just started crying a lot. usually he cries when i cry but he just stared at me the whole time and asked if i wanted a hug. i hugged him and even that felt different. he seems like a completely different person and i think he’s spiralling out of control but he does not want my help. after when i last saw him which was about 2 days ago, he started ignoring me. he has never done anything like this. he was very clingy in the relationship and now i’m suddenly being shoved away. he still says he loves me which is weird. also he is constantly asking my friends about me. i just have a gut feeling that we aren’t over and i’m not sure what i should do in this situation. so do i just leave him completely or reach out to him and suggest he gets more help (he already has a psychologist but only sees her once a month). i think stress is clouding his other emotions and his judgement. for him to say he can’t see himself dating me again just doesn’t add up. he wanted me so bad and i just don’t get it. i want to wait a few month and see if things cool down then ask him again about the relationship because he gets upset when i ask about it now. i have a feeling when everything cools down he’s gonna come back, but i’m just not sure if i should still try to reach out because i’m being ignored. he still stalks my social media and still has pictures of us up. he archived the ones on instagram of us kissing and said he’d put them back up later. that’s why i’m confused. he’s extremely hot and cold with me, i feel like he needs time to sort out his internal stuff cause i’ve noticed he runs from things when it gets very overwhelming for him. i’m just stuck and i don’t want to move on from him cause i just know this isn’t the end.