AM I WRONG FOR THIS?

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Please don’t judge me as you read or comment. I appreciate criticism but I have no good friends to even talk about this with. Everybody just jumps to conclusions and calls me a bitch. This is also probably in the wrong category so please correct me if it is. 
I was with my boyfriend for a year, and although he provided me with amazing support ... I felt like it wasn’t enough. It felt like I was the one who was making the plans every weekend, paying for everything (which I did.... it was either my single mom working 2 jobs paying for someone else’s grown son or me) I barely have my own money and it just pissed me off daily that my boyfriend did nothing but sleep and play video games. Yes, he was enrolled at university but he “never has homework.” Which is mind boggling because if I was paying 30k a year for my schooling I better get homework or something to do. His goals in life were to just “have a decent job and a decent place,” whereas me I want to live in a big city as a psychiatrist. Traveling. Living my life. 
He would take naps when I was about to have dinner and wake up before I went to sleep. He would play video games all day. He barely showered. He didn’t make any effort to get a job and learn how to drive. I drove him everywhere we went and paid for everything we did together. If I didn’t do any of that, we would just sit at my moms house on her couch watching tv all day. 
I’m 20 years old and it felt like I was stuck in a relationship with a high schooler. Hell, high schoolers go on more romantic dates than I did. I want a man... not a little boy. I want a man who works and isn’t afraid of driving (and go karts LOL). A man who would take ME on romantic dates and do things for me. A man who would pay for my birthday dinner. (Yep. I paid for my birthday dinner with my boyfriend at chillis. 3 for $10. Happy birthday to me)
Am I wrong for wanting more and for leaving him? Everybody has called me shallow because I “left him because he didn’t have money.” Which isn’t the entire reason at all. I know he provided me with emotional support but I can only take long written text messages and seeing each other once a month for so long. I just need more.

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I don’t think the only reason you ended it was bc of money. It sounds like he has no motivation to do anything with his life, whereas you want to accomplish big things with yours. Just bc someone provides emotional support doesn’t automatically make them a good boyfriend or mean that you belong with them

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I would have ended it real quick too. That’s not an adult, that’s a boy in my opinion. Nothing wrong with ending a relationship if your views on the future don’t align. It’s best to end it early than later on when you’re in too deep and wasted too much time.

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It sounds like you had very different goals in life, so it’s great that you recognized that and broke up while you are still young! Sure maybe he’ll grow up some day, but no reason you have to wait for him!

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You are not wrong at all. It’s perfectly normal to want a better life and want someone with ambitions. When I read in the beginning that you thought we’d think you were awful, I was expecting something so bad! You get that man with drive and live your beautiful life!🥰

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You’re not wrong. A man who can’t provide is a man who needs opportunity and motivation. A man who WON’T provide is not a man. That was a boy, hunny. Don’t put yourself in the business of raising another woman’s son.

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I dated a guy like that right after high school; it lasted all of 3 months and I was done. It wasn’t money, it was goals/motivation.

AM I WRONG FOR THIS?

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