Am I being disrespected?

So my SO has a friend that he’s had for a couple of years now, someone who used to be his partying friend. Someone who would do stupid stuff with him.

But that said friend makes me uncomfortable because of how disrespectful he talks about women. He’s constantly talking about women he’s hooking up with, giving details about it, and will show my SO their nudes right in front of my face. For example, we had just met him for lunch and he goes, “I just got the hottest tit pic from this Latina girl last night, wanna see?” And my SO was like “yeah let me see”

So last night they were talking on the phone and I overheard his friend say, “yeah this girl I’m seeing, her car broke down, and I’m irritated because I’m not gonna get to clap those cheeks tonight.” My SO goes “just use your hand, it’s more efficient and better anyways.” I didn’t say anything about it.

I ask him about another friend of his and ask if he’s going to talk/see him today. This other friend is mature, respectful and a nice guy. He goes, “why didn’t you want to be around ____ last night?”

I say “He makes me uncomfortable sometimes.” And my SO goes “why?” And I say “because of his comments about women, how he talks about them, and how it’s like I’m not even there. Sometimes I feel like you also say things to him that you normally wouldn’t say.”

He immediately gets defensive over his friend and says that I’m a “snowflake” and act petty over stupid stuff. And that maybe I shouldn’t have been listening to their conversation. He says there’s nothing wrong with his friend and that I’m just upset over nothing.

I then get upset because I’m expecting my first baby with him, he immediately gets mad and says I’m playing the victim. Because I’m trying to explain that my self esteem has been at an all time low and that he’s the one that wanted to know why I get uncomfortable.

He then proceeds to tell me he’s done talking and that he’s not gonna say sorry because he didn’t do anything wrong. And then begins playing on his phone.

Also, he expresses his opinions to me about my friends all the time, and I’m not even allowed to get defensive or he gets mad.

I feel like I’m not allowed to express my emotions or feelings without starting something. It doesn’t matter how pleasant my tone is or how I try and approach it.