How often does your husband help out during the night when the baby wakes?

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My husband never helps and it really has hurt our relationship. I don’t feel supported and I’ve exhausted myself. He fakes sleeps I swear, or says he’ll get the baby next time and never does. We both work full time, yet I’m the one getting less sleep. I’m also pregnant again. Our baby is one, and I’m 5 months along. I don’t know what’s going to happen once baby #2 is here. He says he’ll help more but I doubt that. He’s snoring next to me as I write this and I’ve been up 5 times already, soon to be 6.

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Have you tried sleep training your little one? That seems like a lot for a one year old to be waking up.

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Never! He heavy ass sleeper it’s ridiculous! Lucky our daughter is a good baby that I don’t mind doing it with no help. Plus I’m faster and my husband takes his time, I prefer myself Lol

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In the beginning we took turns, but once he went back to working night shift, I’ve been solo-parenting our daughter during the night, and until around 11am, then he plays with her and watches her so that I can do odd jobs around the house.
She’s almost a year old now, and we are expecting our 2nd baby in August, and the same pattern will follow for baby #2.

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Always. He insists on helping me with her. I try to make him go back to bed because he's the one who works. My LO is also one and waking up multiple times at night. Her molars are coming in. You definitely need to sit him down and talk to him. It isn't fair. I'm sorry girl, I hope it gets better soon ❤

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Well breastfeeding and co sleeping, it's all on me for the most part but we'll take turns also so that I can get a few hours of sleep. Now that he's a toddler, we take turns putting him down and waking up with him if he has a nightmare or something.

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if you're both working he should be helping also. im a stay at home mom and my boyfriend still helps me out with our daughter. 
he works as a mechanic for 70 hours or more every week
(i tell him not to help because he needs sleep, he says he wants to help because it's his daughter too)
he gets home from work & takes on all the responsibilities most of the time until she goes to sleep. our daughter goes to bed between 1 and 2 a.m. he stays up with us.
i would be very upset if he didn't help out and we both worked full time. it would make me feel like he thinks his job is more important than mine. 
he should be sharing night shifts with you, it takes 2 to make a baby

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Thank you everyone for commenting! My husband does he’ll, however not at night. I feel like I have to beg him, which I shouldn’t have to do. Our son was breastfed for the first 10 months, so I did a lot. He doesn’t realize how much work I do and I don’t know how to get thru to him.

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I do all the nightly wake ups during the week bc I am not working outside of the house right now and he works 2 jobs and gets up at 4 am. Saturday nights tho he gets up and lets me get a solid night of sleep.  Eli is 2.5 months and wakes up once maybe 2 times just to eat and diaper change then he is back out...so it's not HORRIBLE... 
But seeing as how you guys both work full time...he could definitely be helping or maybe just ask to take turns...even 1 night a week to start with.. 
I'm sorry you're going through this and your prego...you need sleep! I hope you can get through to him!

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I work nights/weekends, my husband works early mornings. So I do weeknights when I get off work. My husband does weekends.

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She wouldnt let him if he tried. She wants mommy at night always.

How often does your husband help out during the night when the baby wakes?

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