Hiiiiii sooooo unpopular opinion: but I don’t like having sex. It’s not enjoyable, my body is so helplessly tense, and it’s not pleasurable for me. I’ve been with a handful of partners & my current partner for the past 3.5 years. In the beginning, out sex life was exciting and new and fresh....but over time things sizzled out as they can. But I want to want to have sex if that makes sense. But it can be uncomfortable and even painful at times, even if we’re trying new positions. I don’t even get wet...like ever (I can count on my hands the amount of times it’s happened)

I feel like a lot of this has to do with myself feeling uncomfortable. I know it’s gotten to my partner and we’ve expressed our concerns to each other but I just don’t know what to do. Why don’t I enjoy sex like everyone else seems to?

We’re currently discussing options such as seeing a sex therapist, or even seeing a doctor about it. Any advice would be helpful and appreciated 😓🥰