Slowly telling close family and friends but a lot of negative reactions.

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Due on November 6th and I’ve gradually been telling family and close friends and I’m telling the rest of my family on Easter . And then Facebook announcement to follow . A lot of my family and friends have had negative or unsupportive reactions all the way down to calling me “selfish”. Due to the fact that my children are going to grow up in a single parent household. So back story my daughter is over two years old. When she was 7 months old after multiple attempts at trying and trying again when she was a year and a half to salvage a dead and unhealthy relationship with her father we parted ways. When she was 7 months old I moved out of his mothers house which is where we were all living at the time because she put her hands on me while I was holding my daughter . Her dad initially took his moms side and we also had prior issues so that was the final straw. Fast forward to now we have a custody arrangement and it’s not always smooth sailing but I can speak for myself and say that I try to make sure my daughter maintains a relationship with her father outside of the every other weekend that he has her . (He’s in the military and lives two hours away . So we improvise and I will FaceTime him throughout the week and for bedtime to talk to her) . Any way fast forward . An old friend and I got back in touch in November and we started dating . Well here we are 11 weeks pregnant . At 9 weeks we decided to just be friends because we both have a lot going on individually we live an hour and ten minutes from one another have opposite work schedules and have kids from a previous relationship . We have open communication. And he is supportive. We plan on coparenting together and working together to raise the child. One of the reasons we decided to be just friends is I refuse to put myself in a situation where I lose my place or move in with someone just to be left with nothing again and only for the reason of having a child . And because of his job he can’t move here. He is understanding and we both understand however people just don’t understand why I am okay with doing most of it on my own. Honestly I’m 31 I have a decent job and am a great mother to my 2 ur old I have no doubts that our son will be just fine. I’m ready to commit to another child just not to a relationship and moving in until we are married if that’s something we decide but at 5 months in I feel like it’s too soon to rush into anything.

But with all this being said how does it make me selfish that I chose to be a single mother by choice . My daughter doesn’t go without and neither will my son. With everyone’s reactions being the way they have been it makes me scared to tell everyone else .

A child is a blessing. And I’m so thankful for this opportunity to be a mother again . I can’t wait to give this child the love and affection that I have.

It’s actually gotten me to the point where I told the people that Already know that I will not be having a shower because I don’t want anyone coming who isn’t really happy for me or my unborn child or my growing family .

Okay done venting .