Hey guys so my husband and I have always had ups and downs like any other couple but I feel marriage should not be this hard? Here’s the thing my husband has his own issues he deals with, he does have anxiety and depression at times, he’s either really positive and in a good mood or he’s super low and a so negative. We have married been for 4 years and we had some really bad times where we would get family involved an it was just so messy but eventually learned to not get family involved fast fwd to 2017 and a baby later we decided to move back to where I’m from and it was great but my husband can be so negative at times so he made a small scene in front of my family, we lived with my mom and siblings then until we got our own place, I said enough was enough and said we need to go to therapy so we can work out our differences and maybe it’ll help him get through his issues and his anger. He decided not to come so ever since November 2017 I have been going to therapy alone but now were still not doing the best but have some great days but I can’t live this way. Any disagreement he gets so angry, he swears, he is disrespectful he goes off topic an brings others Into it, so after a huge fight two nights ago I went and saw my therapist an she gave me great advice and said maybe you can find a therapist with the same religion as you because sometimes that helps an maybe he will go, I came back told him I can’t do this unless we get help together he agreed but fast fwd to today we’re not really talking again. The thing is I’m not ready to give up I wanna strive in this marriage an do what it takes to make it work and help him through his issues, I know I can’t do all the work an I know I can’t necessarily fix him but I can’t just leave, he’s also a great person with a good heart an after talking to my sister she says yeah he does have these issues but he’s a good person who will go out of his way for anyone but I can’t live with the anger an miscommunication, I was told to take a step back to start focusing on me more, to not worry so much about what he says an does and just do your best. I told myself that yeah I’m not perfect but I’m willing to help this marriage even more and see if us going to therapy will work! Anyone else seem like marriage is so hard? But not wanting to give up yet? I’m posting anonymously so I won’t respond but please any friendly advice would be appreciated or maybe someone is going through something similar and is getting through it?