Did I rape him?

Okay so the title may sound weird but I’m genuinely concerned.

Last night I was at a party at my cousins house. I was drinking and so were most people there. This guy that I’ve been crushing on was there and he was also drinking. Fast forward to the end of the night and we were both drunk. I stopped counting at 13 shots and a few beers . I’m not sure how much he had but it was also a lot. Anyway we go inside and were together. After a while he kept saying he wanted to have sex. I remember saying no to him because we were on the couch and anyone could walk in. He kept persisting so I finally gave in. We spent the night at my cousins on two separate couches and the next day when we woke up he kept saying how he couldn’t remember anything after a certain point. So I’m pretty sure he doesn’t remember having sex with me.

Does this count as rape? I know we were both impaired and things are fuzzy for me but I do remember having sex and him insisting on it. But if he doesn’t remember isn’t that wrong? I’m not sure what to do or what to say to him.

UPDATE : So I messaged him and this was the response .

I know a lot of you guys commented I shouldn’t have had sex with him if he was drunk but I was drunk too. It was my first time drinking apart from taking sips of wine and I had a lot. Maybe I shouldn’t have drank so much to put myself in this situation but I did. And Idk how much he drank but he was still very much awake and flirty and asking for sex repeatedly. I didn’t think he was anywhere near being black out drunk . I didn’t even feel comfortable having sex as I really like him and didn’t want our first time to be in my cousins house or come off as slutty. But when he said he didn’t remember the next morning I felt horrible. I’m not trying to make excuses but I just thought we had drunken sex. I didn’t think in a million years he’d wake up and claim not to remember anything.

Anyway this is how he responded and he’s obviously okay with what happened. I on the other hand feel a bit weird. Idk how to respond but I just keep thinking of how pushy he was about having sex. Maybe it was the alcohol and how it affected him, but he was a whole different guy. Aggressive like I never saw him before. Which I know it seems stupid for me to be uncomfortable with him when I was just questioning if I was the perpetrator and he was the victim. So maybe I have no right to feel weird about how persistent he was about having sex after I told him no. Especially given the fact that he was so nonchalant about what happened. Idk. Either way I thank all of your for the advice and input. I’m not sure if I’ll respond to him but I was freaking out