I just need advice and I don’t know where to turn. my husband has used binge drinking as a “feel better” tool since he was 15. when we first got together we were in college and it was always a party scene so I didn’t think much of it. then we moved out on our own and got jobs, and I got pregnant. It wasn’t planned, and I was very very sick. he said it was a terrible time for him because all I did was lay in bed sick, and his drinking was at its peak. I THOUGHT he would be at work for 12 or 13 hours (he’s a carpenter and does side work). it turned out he would work a regular day, drink all day at work (he drove someone to work everyday because this guy had 2 dui’s and lost his license) they drank whiskey all day at work, then they would go to the bar and he would literally crawl inside at like 6pm, pass out, and leave for work at like 5 the next morning. it was terrible. I was miserable. he was mean. I honestly don’t know who he is when he drinks whiskey. he was drinking and driving last may and rolled his truck, completely totaling it and he had to be air-evaded to the hospital. I was 19 weeks pregnant and thought he wasn’t going to make it. he got out of the hospital and continued to drink. it’s always infuriated me that he still drinks, still drinks and drives, and doesn’t wear his seatbelt (even though he went through a windshield). we moved back near family when I was about 25 weeks pregnant, I threatened to leave him and he got better. no more whiskey, still a lot of beer.

our daughter was born, everything was great. she became a difficult baby, he struggled again. I found tequila bottles under the sink. I confronted him, he admitted he had a problem. things got better. we got married, he found Jesus again, we got baptized together. I was so happy. we moved back to where we were originally so he could be a carpenter again. about a month ago I found out he has been chewing and hiding it from me (he used to smoke) and it hurt. I don’t trust him and don’t know how it’s so easy for him to lie and hide things from me. now he’s drinking whiskey again. last night (a monday night) he drank a fifth of whiskey alone just at our house. he messaged one of his ex girlfriends (it was harmless but still upset me). If he drinks whiskey like he used to, or continues to be drunk or need to be tipsy all the time, our marriage will be miserable. I’m so hurt. and I do not want my 7 month old daughter around it. what can I even do? anytime I confront him he says he’s fine and he won’t do it again. but I’ve heard that so many times it means nothing. please send prayers and advice 😪 thank you for reading