I don’t know what to do...

Anxiety seems to kick in when I think about her coming to visit and stay with my hubby and I for sometime.

I’ve gone quiet towards my hubby in the lead up to her arrival. A bit distant even. I sometimes question my hubby’s love for me.

A lil background....

She has come into my home and told me what to do and what not to do in my own home, how to serve my hubby etc. I’m still trying to make it my home after getting married. - I know she means well but considering I hadn’t even been married a year after giving birth there was a lot of adjusting to do on mine and hubby’s part.

She’s back in a few weeks and will be staying sometime. Honestly, thinking about it takes me back to the traumatic time I had when she was here.

So much was said and done that’s changed me as a person.

1: she controls when/what I eat (even if I want to snack she always has a comment to make)

2: she accused me very strongly about something I didn’t do or even thought to do and my hubby took her side and decided to accuse me and showed he really didn’t trust me by doing some things and just the questions he asked me around the issues

3: judged my cooking

4: said my hubby wouldn’t tell me my food was bad so he doesn’t offend me

5: my house is dirty according to her (and now I get why my hubby always complained about the slightest things - she has an influence over him)

6: after giving birth she wanted the baby in the room with her (it’s our custom where we are from that the hubby’s mum helps with the baby in the early days) but when I said no she wasnt too happy

7: always wanted to carry the baby - even when we had guests

8: always told me what to do when people were in the house.

9: she spoke to me rude on many occasions infront of my own friends and family

10: I told her my hubby never complained about things when we 1st got married and she said yeah because you were pregnant and he wouldn’t want to stress you out (how would she know)

This is just a snippet. I just don’t know what to do: I love my hubby very much and his mum because of how much he loves her but....

I just don’t feel comfortable around her anymore.

Do I pour out my Heart to him AGAIN, with the hope that he’ll understand why I don’t feel comfortable with her staying with us?!! I have tackled this so many times and always leads to a misunderstanding - with me feeling the brunt of it all