Divorce. Custody. New wife. Ex wife liar.

Sóley • 23yo married. Baby boy born may 2020🎉

I wont go into too much detail. Thank you for reading if you do. Please pray for him.

My husband hasn't seen his child in 9 months. No contact at all. He divorced his ex wife a little over 9 months ago. When divorcing she agreed to have 50/50 custody. My sweet naive husband belived her. She let him see his son a week after the divorce then nothing. She filed for a non molestation order to get free legal aid. She accused him of being abusive and he was advised to just accept with no proof because he wanted to see his son and it would take months. He filed for child arrangements and he can't afford a lawyer so he is representing himself. Then she starts to lie more. If you read the case from start to finish without knowing either of them you could clearly see who's lying. So many inconsistencies. She says one thing here and completely goes against it over there. Many times. The courts are treating him like a criminal even though nothing has been found against him. I mean they have looked into her accusations and found nothing. So i don't understand why they're still treating him like that. She finds out he remarried 5 months after their divorce. Like she found out the week we married. I don't know her. I have never met her. Yet she starts making lies about me in court. She starts stalking me on fb and Instagram. Then i start getting comments on fb posts from random people i don't know. Flirty comments. I show my husband and he says its her. He said she is trying to cause problems with us. Didn't work. How i know about the stalking is because of her lies in court. She said he posted pictures of me and him on his fb in 2017 or from 2017, either way its funny because we didn't even know each other then.

In court she and her lawyer make him look bad when he denied what didn't happen. He told the judge, how am i supposed to comment on an event that didn't happen.

Their marrage was unhappy and unhealthy. From the momen they were married she wanted no relationship with him. He tried many times over their 9 year marriage to make it work. Why he stopped trying is when she told him they'd never have a relationship. She said they'd stay together for their son but never speak or interact. He stayed home with their son and she went out every day to work or hang out with friends. Non of the money she got from work was used towards the son. She always came home late like 2am. She wanted nothing to do with him but got jealous when he barely knew her. My husband was the main parent.

Mine and his relationship was very messy in the beginning so im not getting into that.

I do anything i can to make life easier for him. I cook for him. I prepare every meal for him. I make him launch for work. We have sex every night (something i thought was normal). I keep our room clean. I clean his clothes, then fold them. I love him and i want to do these things. He says im the perfect wife and he is so lucky to have me. All thise things i counted up are things he has thanked me for. His ex wife never did one of those things for him.

He has court again on Monday we are all hoping that its the last one and he can finally see his son.

He is a wreck. He cries himself to sleep some nights in my arms. He worries nonstop about his son. He wakes up sad. He dreams about this. He is so stressed. He panics in his sleep. He yelles in his sleep. His mother and father act like they have it worse and complain to him about how they miss their grandbaby. That brings him down and he almost cries.

He has said repeatedly that if it wasn't for me he would have gone to jail for kidnapping his own son or he would have killed himself. He doesn't have anyone to be on his side other than me.

UPDATE if anyone cares

He went to court and they decided to believe her even though he had proof she was lying. They ignored his evidence and said that he is abusive. She cried and they believed her. If he cried they would call him an unfit parent. Now he will not able to see his son. He has to take anger management and domestic abuse courses.

Life feels like it has stopped. We had plans to start a family and go out as a family with his son when he could. Now that dream seems impossible. We worry about the mental state of his son. I sit here thinking how a person could do this to another human, or even her own son. Ruining his relationship with his father and all family on his side. The child is 3 years old. Too young to remember. I feel like crying all the time. My husband has been crying since the hearing.