She tried to hurt me! **update**

Someone please give me some advice! My boyfriend's daughter literally tried to physically hurt me! I walked outside to take a box to the road because trash pickup is tomorrow when I came back in there was water all over the walkway right where I just walked through. I slipped and almost fell but I have good balance and caught myself. My boyfriend just downloaded the doorbell app on my phone last night so I decided to pull it up on the video to see what happened. The little witch waits till I walk by and gets up and pours a bottle of water all over the walkway taking the time to spread it around then runs inside right before I turn around to walk back in. It is ALL on video! I messaged my boyfriend and told him he better talk care of her before I flip out. He came in here and asked me what was wrong and I showed him the video and he told me he would be back. Which was at least a half hour ago. Hasn't been back yet. I do everything I can for her. Even made sure I took off for her elementary graduation. Make sure I always think of her and not leave her out and now this. It honestly makes me want to pack my stuff up and leave. I honestly think she is a spoiled brat and needs to have a little more discipline than she gets but I constantly keep my mouth shut and deal with it because I love my boyfriend but now this! What am I suppose to do?

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****Update**** Sorry the update is very long.

This is not my 1st relationship with someone with any kids. I've never had any issues in the past with kids. This is the 1st relationship I feel as though I have to be extra careful on how I act or say because his ex wife is extremely manipulative with their daughter and uses her against him all the time. Which is why I vented on here only!!! I gave up Everything to move down here to be with my boyfriend a couple of months ago and I do not act or do anything that will jeopardize our relationship which is why as i said before I vented in here only.

When I wrote this post I was pretty pissed off as would anyone else if they watched the video. It was not a prank! She knew what she was doing clearly in the video taking the time to spread it around with her foot then walking to the door and looking back make sure I was walking back in that way before going inside. She wasn't laughing her face was pure "I want to hurt her." I would have posted it on here however I do not want to put her face on social media out of respect for her. So obviously I do care about her. For the people telling me to grow up and saying I don't care about her are completely wrong. As I said before I ONLY VENTED ON HERE. I had to get it out before I said or did something I shouldn't. Which is why I had to get it off my chest. As I said before if you saw the video of her pouring the bottle of water on the porch you can clearly see it was no prank. If she was laughing or smiling or anything else I would have thought so. However she is not the look on her face and how she goes about doing it says it all. I originally thought she just threw the bottle down on the porch and went inside till I watched the video. As far as me being able to discipline her or talk to her I can't because of the way her mother is.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. The only thing new is we moved in with each other a few months ago. This is the 1st time she has done anything like this. I have never done anything to her to deserve her to do that to me. I have taken her shopping. Like I said I have gone way out of my way for her and have done everything I can for her. We have never had any issues before like that. Just last week the 3 of us had a nerf gun fight outside running around goofing off. Do I agree with some of the things my boyfriend does to discipline her.... no but I have never once told him that or treated her that way. Do I agree with him buying her everything she wants when they go out to the store (she gets a shopping cart fills it up and he buys it for her no matter the price last time was over $300).... no but like I said I have never told him or did anything to treat her badly in any way. She is 12 he let's her stay up as late as she wants on a school night including 4 in the morning and he let's her walk all over him all the time. Do I agree with it... no but i have never told him or treated her any differently. (It is a whole other story on why I think he let's her get away with everything she does) I go out of my way for her everytime she is here. I have never once ever have done anything for her to disrespect me like that. I stand by my boyfriend when he does get on to her even though I do not agree with him just talking to her as a form of discipline.

My boyfriend did talk to her and she flat out lied and said she didn't do it on purpose. He doesn't believe her because the video shows here clearly doing it on purpose. It shows she knew exactly what she was doing. Actions speak louder than words. She was suppose to apologize to me before she went back to her moms which she never did and he took her allowance away. She told him she was mad at him for not going to her dr appointments which he never knew about because her mother deliberately doesn't tell him to make him look bad. This is not the 1st time his ex has done that. He showed her that her mother has never once sent him a message about her appointments. She also said she's mad at him for renlisting for another 4 years. He explained to her why he did it. She told him she is still getting use to me being here which is understandable. I'm still getting use to it myself. Pretty much everything was directed towards him as far as her being mad at. My boyfriend believes his ex had a hand in encouraging his daughter to act out like that. We never had any issues till his ex started running her mouth about me to his daughter about a week ago. No I have never done anything to his ex. I have only met her a few times and was polite to her the few times I met her. She is one of those "I don't want him but I don't want anyone else to have him either because there is a chance of him being happy." I never even talk to him about his ex when his daughter is at the house. Yes his ex is psycho. She uses their daughter to manipulate him all the time so I can see that. You are right I should have been in there to talk to her was well. Yes I was extremely upset because I have never done anything to deserve to be treated that way. Yes I said things on here only to vent. Why? Because if i let it out then guess what it stays here and not taken out anywhere else. After he brought her back to her mother's later that night I told him we needed to sit down and talk. I waited till she wasn't here to talk to him about how I felt about everything because it was between us and we never even talked before he talked to her. I just told him he needed to take care of her. Why I told him that was because if I did neither of them would have liked it. All I did was hand him my phone and play the video and he knew I was extremely upset. Yes maybe at a later date we can all just sit down and talk. I am always very careful of what I say or do so I don't act or say things I shouldn't to the people I care about. He only has his daughter every other weekend and every Wednesday I make sure I don't do anything to jeopardize it. I have anxiety so me going in the other room to calm down and vent and get it out is what I needed to do instead of making things worse. Yes I called her a witch on here only, why? Because she purposely tried to hurt me. Have I felt that way before? No not till yesterday when she tried to hurt me. So yes I can feel that way because it was not a prank it was deliberate. She knew exactly what she was doing it is clear as day on the video. Have I always felt she was spoiled, yes why because she is but as I said I have kept it to myself and have not acted or treated her any differently nor have I even said anything to my boyfriend I stand by my boyfriend in how he is with her despite me not agreeing, why? Because she is his daughter and that's how he feels he needs to be with her then that's his choice and standing by him is what you are suppose to do in a relationship.

My opinion on why she did it..... she woke up extremely moody yesterday afternoon, she was mad at him because she wanted him to run to the store right that second to go get her strawberries. He told her he was busy because we were cleaning the garage. 2nd she was mad at him because he wouldn't get on the 4 wheeler with her because he was cleaning the garage. She was extremely mouthy and disrespectful to him. At that point I walked inside to do the dishes and to keep my mouth shut about him letting her talk to him that way. I think she did it because in her mind it was my fault he didn't do what she wanted the moment she wanted it even though I had no say in him telling her no.

I never thought she was a bad kid until she tried to hurt me. I always felt she needed a little more discipline and structure in her life because she always acts very entitled and doesn't know the meaning of value as far as money and objects. I feel she is 12 and needs to go to bed by a certain time not stay up all night long and then is late to school because she can't get up in the morning. When she gets out in the real world how will she be able to keep a job and have her own place if she is never taught it? But as I said before I have kept this to myself because how can I tell him how to raise his daughter when she is here? I am always careful on how I act and what I say especially around his daughter because of how his ex is.