PCOS struggles

So I don’t know if anyone else relates but growing up I always had hairy arms and legs and never did anything about my arm hair because I didn’t mind- but so many people point it out- I get so insecure- refuse to show my arms in pictures- I always wear long sleeves - now I have facial hair and it’s irritating - I don’t know how to fix this - I take spironolactone and birth control but it doesn’t seem to help me- what are some ways to get rid of the hair? Any advice, tips, or your own stories to make me feel better:(