Find out sex of baby or wait? (See description)

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Okay - we’re having a follow up anatomy ultrasound on Friday since baby was a little uncooperative for a few of the photos...
That said, hubby and I have been planning to wait until birth to find out the sex of the baby. We’ve been pretty team green up to a few days ago.
Because we’re all (except for two people) pretty sure that we’re having a girl. I know intuition can be wrong, but there are a lot of people saying baby is a girl. 
A friend pointed out that it might be worth just the two of us finding out now so that if baby does happen to have a penis we don’t have that disappointment at the time that baby arrives, but can prepare ourselves differently. We still wouldn’t tell anyone else the sex of the baby.
To be clear, we don’t care if baby has a penis or a vagina - we’re thrilled to be pregnant. But because we are so convinced through intuition that we’re having a girl, are thinking it may be good to know just in case.
What would you do???

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It’s up to you. We went into team green knowing that we would be completely ok with baby being whatever. We call baby a boy and we’re pretty convinced baby is a boy, but we do “check in’s” with each other. We remind each other “baby may be a girl, and that’s ok”. We talk about what if baby is a girl. We look at bows and dresses and talk about the girl name. We make plans for both, that way we don’t get too involved in one.
If you are sure you both will love baby if it happens to be a girl and it won’t cause negative feelings or a hard time bonding, I say stay team green. But if you think it may cause a hard time bonding or negative feelings or ruin the experience, it may be worth it to find out now so you have time to prepare and process that before you’re holding a newborn baby.

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I was team green with my first and I am again! Everyone is convinced this one is a girl (myself included) but I’m totally good with it being a boy. Still planning on gender neutral everything (especially since we have most of what we need).
The surprise is sooooo worth it if you can wait. There is no disappointment when a baby is put into your arms no matter what the sex is, just joy.

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We were team green with our last pregnancy, twins, until my husband had major anxiety and really needed to know. I was 31 weeks when we did the reveal and I was super bummed we didn’t just wait. Even though I didn’t care what the genders were, I had really liked the surprise of it all. With this pregnancy we are waiting until the birth for sure. It’s such a cool surprise and I’m even more excited for the birth because of it.

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I didn’t find out with my first, but found out with my second. I also didn’t care what gender we ended up with, but had a feeling #2 was another boy (it is!). I sometimes wish we didn’t find out again because the surprise was so fun (I asked the doctor to let my husband be the one to tell me the gender once he was born). But there are advantages too... we didn’t get rid of old baby boy stuff and everyone around us is more excited to know this time around. Good luck with your decision!

Find out sex of baby or wait? (See description)

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