My boyfriend drunk DM’d another girl. IT WAS VERY FLIRTY. Should I forgive him? Or leave him? *story below to make your decision*

So my boyfriend went on tour with his band and had a random fan girl approach him - let’s call this bitch Jenny. Her best friend told my boyfriend “She loves you! And has been a big fan of yours and been following you on Instagram for 4 years.” He replied “That’s very kind of you to say that.” Her friend then said “come talk to her?” And he replied back “she can come over here and talk to my band and I.” The friend left and brought over Jenny. All the single guys in the band were all bright eyed when she showed up. I guess she was really pretty? Ps. The drummer of the band girl friend was at the show and saw all of this unfold.

Jenny kept flirting with my boyfriend. Well she tried too all night but he wouldn’t budge. She asked him at one point “wanna take shots together? Also you’re really handsome. Sorry I couldn’t help but tell you that... I’ve always had a crush on you.” My boyfriend said back “I’m flattered but I have a girl friend back home.” And he walked away. The drummers girlfriend - let’s call her Kim. Kept a close eye on this Jenny character. Jenny and her friends then got the whole band after the show shots. And three of the single guys loved her, so that’s why she was mingling with his band. Kim said Jenny always tried to get my boyfriends attention but she didn’t have much luck. Until his bandmates got him blasted drunk. Kim and her boyfriend (the drummer) had interfere at one point to pull my boyfriend away from Jenny and took him back with the band to the hotel. But that didn’t stop her from dm’ing him.

So before I knew any of this shit... the night he came home he told me about this random girl that kept hitting on him. And said she was very persistent... he was about to go further into telling me then his friends showed up at the restaurant. And I didn’t hear anymore about this random fan girl... UNTIL THREE DAYS AGO. The girl friend of the drummer disclosed more info to me and felt she had to confront me about it in case he never said anything. Then one of the band members messaged me about it and said “I’m curious did you talk to him about what happened? You should know this...” and I was told everything.

I was bowling with anger, im was crying but I was mostly angry. So Sunday night I approached him after his band left the house and the girl friends at the kitchen table told me I had to confront him asap before they left again on tour for a week. Once everyone left I told him I knew what he did. I knew about the messages and that random fan girl. He looked at me shocked and said “babe, I’m sorry!” He grabbed me and held me close and wouldn’t let me go. I was bawling and kept asking him “why, why... why did you do this?” I felt cheated on emotionally and I never, EVER. Expected this man I loved to cheat. He’s so good to me. He picked me up and brought me to the couch and held me tightly on his lap. He wouldn’t let go and I just cried. He said “you’re right... I messed up. What I did was so wrong. And I’m so sorry baby. I’m so sorry. I tried to tell you right when it happened when I got home. But I choked.”

The rest of the night was spent in silence. He packed for tour as I laid in bed with my stomach in knots. I use to be in a bad relationship where I was cheated on emotionally a lot. And gas lightened when I brought up how I felt when he cheated. But this relationship with my current man was so different. He admitted and he didn’t make me feel crazy for how I felt. But my heart hurt still.

I laid in bed wrapped in the covers. He came in and pulled me close against his body and spooned me. His arms wrapped tightly around me and told me “I love you. Forgive me.” I cried again - I’m sensitive. I told him “relationships are having loyalty. Trust. You travel so often... I need to know I can trust my heart with you. If you’re going to keep low key emotionally cheating on me with random fan girls on tour I can’t do this.” He held me closer and said “I’m a mess. Drinking blurred that line of morals for me... i need to stop drinking.” I then asked him “do you want to be with me? Do you really? Because if you don’t please don’t waste my time....” he said “I do want to be with you. I love you.” He kissed me on the cheeked. And I put my head on his chest and saw he was crying. We both cried asleep in each other’s arms.

That morning at the airport he looked at me and I saw sadness in his eyes. He hugged me goodbye and told me “you’re my person. I love you baby” and kissed me, then he left on the plane.

I’m still angry as fuck. Confused why he talk like he did with that chick. Should I leave? Or stay? I love him so much...

Also here’s the fucking DM evidence! ALSO I creeped that Jenny bitch and she has a fucking boyfriend! Should he know that his lady tried to steal my man recently? Or is that a crazy lady move if I message him? Mhm probably... so I won’t. ALSO, HA! That Jenny is creeping my insta, saw her little fucking profile name show up on my insta story viewers. FUCK OFF JENNY!

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