Hi guys 👋🏼 So, I’m definitely on my way up, but I need some advice. I’ll be starting my new job soon, which I’m super excited about, and I’ve also been accepted into a part-time grad program in the fall!! I’m soooo excited that I’m getting back to my goals after putting them on hold for my son.

However, I also need to transition out of this relationship. I never really wanted to be with him. I was in it out of obligation and every time I’ve talked about leaving, he guilts me into staying. The longer I stay, the more toxicity I see. My son is 14 months and a lawyer I contacted pretty much told me I have like 90% custody in the bag. He said with a child that young, he’d be lucky to get any overnights. What’s more is that everything is super spread out: job, school, and father. I’ve found a mid-point, but it’ll still be tough unless I can get a job close to school and move down there, putting the dad further from us. I’m confident that I can do this if I get a decent amount of child support and therefore can utilize childcare. But, I SO do not want to go through this. This man gets so conniving and just terrible whenever I say I’m going to leave. I don’t really have any support, but I’ve thought about reaching out to some old friends I lost when I got into this mess (my fault, but I’m positive they’d forgive me).

An example of what this man does is the night before my interview for grad school (like three in the morning or something), he tells me he wants me to leave. The next morning, he says he’s giving me 90 days before he cuts off my insurance and phone and all that and evict me (I’m a SAHM). I’m like “🤷🏻‍♀️ cool”. His brother was supposed to come watch our son so that I could go on the interview and I didn’t trust that he was going to show up, so I told him that my sister was going to watch my son instead. Neither of our families are spectacular, but I was fine with them babysitting this once. He FREAKED. He said he was going to call the cops (with nothing to report 🙄) and then took off of work so he could watch my son (aka so he could win). I nailed the interview and was kind of being a cunt when I got home late. I told him I nailed it because I wanted him to know he didn’t touch me. Then, I got the email that said I had been admitted and I screenshotted it to him, at which point he kicked in my bedroom door and told me “not to fuck with him” and then accused me of harassing him, but HE was kicking down MY bedroom door???? Idk. I just need out of this and some advice and encouragement, maybe some similar stories or something. Thanks!