Shortly before the holidays I had posted here about how I had received a Facebook message from an acquaintance saying that my Fiancé had cheated on me with her.

The at the time I was really shocked, who wouldn’t be? And I came to the app while I waited for my fiancé to get home from work looking for support while I decided my next move.

I decided to stay calm and showed him the photo after he got home, and he spilt everything. She had gotten really drunk at a friends party after work, and he had had a few beers that night as well. He and another guy tried to get her to lay down in one of the spare rooms because she was stumbling and throwing up everywhere. Their goal was to get her to calm down and then make sure she was safe. (They all work in law enforcement and figured they would take turns watching her through the night so she didn’t choke). When they got her to sit down she immediately went for their pants and ended up starting to give my fiancé a BJ while giving the other guy a HJ. Heartbroken I threw the ring back at him and went to bed. None of the sobbing, begging for forgiveness, or apologies mattered to me at that point.

The next morning he brought me breakfast in bed, and asked if we could go to counseling together. He wanted to make sure I got the support I needed to process everything and he could work through his drinking habits, decision making progress, and over all better communication with me. I agreed, that he did need some help regarding his drinking and we definitely needed help with communication.

We started counseling at the start of the new year, some together and some separate. I’ve learned things about this man that I never knew, and I have also learned things about me I never knew. The past 4 months we have grown so much, and have truly become a better couple, and better people. We have a long way to go, and we can never change what happened in the past, but I have faith that the man I am marrying has remorse for his actions and is actively making a change in his life to prevent himself from being in those types of situations.

So to the ladies who said to leave him he wasn’t worth it. Who said I was weak because I didn’t immediately leave him. To the people that said nasty things about myself as well as my fiancé: we made the right choice together to better ourselves and our relationship. I am proud that we saw our weaknesses and worked on them together. Counseling has given us an opportunity to have a new start, and to better understand each other.

One person’s relationship is not the same as anyone else’s. I’m glad we did what was best for us in this situation and it had the outcome it has.