Failure to launch a relationship

Hi ladies

I ended a year relationship with someone 2 months ago, it was going nowhere and he seemed to not care about my feelings and how hurt I was, he became distant with me out of the blue, and has remained silent. I gave it my all and it wasnt good enough. I was asked on a date recently, went out with this guy twice to be told he doesn't have a connection with me. I really don't understand what is happening, why do things collapse so quickly. I am honest, not clingy, am in a good place in my life and just want to share my life with someone. Why is it so hard?

I see other people do it effortlessly and for me it is a struggle where I end up hurt and used.

I would appreciate your advice, my friends and family are supportive but sometimes just hearing advice from strangers is helpful. I am abit depressed right now. I have taken time in the past to heal but I am getting older and I feel I will be alone forever.