So I know the title is a little out there - and not very direct but this is my first pregnancy and I don’t know what to ask, what to look up. Everyone’s giving me gap hazard advice with little to no experience and I just feel at a loss. One of my friends was giving me advice for when my baby is choking but I don’t even know the gender. Another was giving me advice about giving birth but I don’t want to rush straight to the thing that’s terrifying me the most. Anything I’m suggesting or bringing up to worry about is getting shot down as a “not to worry” or “yeah that won’t happen” ... So now I don’t know where to go from here. I’m 16 weeks today and I can’t wait for my little bean to be born but I just don’t want to be unprepared as mother. I lost my mom a few years ago to cervical cancer and my boyfriends mom lives over 2.5 hours away. So I don’t really have a mother to turn to either. I have my midwife but again it’s a team of women who haven’t been the most personal with me but is that my fault ?! Do I need to be more personal with them I mean , I’m just nervous I don’t want to sound like an idiot . Also below I post a picture of bean from my last ultrasound at 13 weeks

Ladies , help!!