Overreacting?

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Not baby related but i have too rant
Would you ladies be pissed if your FIANCE called his ex (who passed aways)  "his wife" even though they wasnt married!! And he don't even consider me his wife I'm his "girlfriend" but his ex is his "wife" wouldn't yall be pissed or am i overreacting?

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Yes it would bother me. Dead or not it’s still disrespectful. If she were his wife before you I think it might be different but they were never married so just seems a little strange he is referring to her as something of much more value than he refers to you.

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I wouldn’t let a dead girl make me that pressed. Who cares what he calls her. He’s marrying you so that you’ll actually be his wife

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I honestly would not care. He can call a dead person whatever he wants. Maybe he did consider her his wife, that’s not for you to decide. He’s not going to be able to change how he views her, but you can ask him kindly to not refer to her that way because it hurts your feelings. I would not be angry about it though.

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I had a boyfriend we’d call each other husband and wife. I was with him for years. He was my best friend. We broke it off and because I was so used to calling him husband, I call him x husband. I’d never say that in front of my current man though. With my new man, I actually plan to marry and know we have big things going on. I wouldn’t let my x tarnish that.

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My feelings would be hurt no doubt but i honestly think you should set this aside and try to move on from it. 
Even if you talk to him about it imagine whats hes going to think. My girlfriend is so insecure shes worried about what i call a dead woman. If you still wish to get married to him im sure this will change. Getting married will open a new chapter in his life where that title actually means something. How long has she been gone? Men grieve differently than us and him calling her that may be his way of trying to hold on to her. I say give it time and it will change. I dont want you to think im being mean because im a cry baby and my feelings would be shattered as well. But being on the outside looking in, i say he just needs more time to grieve.

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they had children together, her life was stolen from him. losing someone you’ve built a life and a family with is something i would never wish upon anyone, having gone through it myself. he should be able to call her anything he wants as i’m sure they would still be together if he had it his way. sure that’s a bitter pill to swallow being the new woman in the equation, but you should’ve known that walking into it. you are over reacting as she is gone and not coming back

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