Hi everyone!

I know this is a lot to read but I think it is worth the read.

I am in need of some advice. I dated a guy named Tyler from January until about the beginning of April. I thought the relationship was going so well. However, my roommate falsely accused me of cheating on my boyfriend and he “ended” the relationship, but didn’t actually break up with me. I fought so hard and tirelessly for him and in the end he just didn’t think I was worth it. I found out a few days ago he slept with someone else right after he accused me of cheating on him. He apparently has been seeing this girl since he accused me of cheating.

But the weird part about all of this is that I got back home from college a few weeks ago, saw him the next day, cried in his arms for an hour and a half because my heart was in a million pieces. He told me he wanted to work through everything and he wanted to be with me. A few days later we went and saw a movie with my family. I took him back to my house to get his vehicle and he slept with me. After he left I asked him if I was holding him back from being with someone else and he said that I wasn’t. He got back to base (Fort Carson) and he told me he couldn’t be with me. As a curious girl, I asked why. He told me he had his own reasons and that he “just needed to be me for a while.” I was devastated. I cried in my mom’s arms all night for how much my heart hurt because I love this boy with every ounce of my body.

I found out a few days ago that he is dating the girl he cheated on me with and him and I did not end on a good note. I realized how much he screwed with my head and how he manipulated me to believe all of his lies. Mentally I am not okay, physically I am broke down and exhausted, I have tried everything to possibly get over him in the healthiest way and I just can’t seem to let him go.

A friend gave me advice and said to mourn him like he died (he didn’t die) and that our relationship died and mourn him for a few weeks and move on. But I am having trouble trying to figure out how to move on and how to not be so self conscious anymore, how to heal mentally and just how to heal in general from my heart being broken.

I want to get over him because he destroyed me and I’m having a really hard time healing and getting over him. I would love anyone’s advice on what to do because it’ll really help me heal.

Thank you for any advice. I really appreciate it 💕