Missed miscarriage...

Krystal

Last Thursday we had an ultrasound done by a radiologist because my Dr was worried. I was supposed to be 9 weeks and the baby didn't look like it grew. The radiologist said the baby was measuring 6 weeks still. And they couldn't see a heartbeat. I had to wait until Tuesday for a confirmation from my Dr so I spent the entire weekend freaking out. Then on Tues they did another ultrasound and the fetal pole and yolk sac were gone.

This was my first baby. It took me a long time to get pregnant, I was told for 15 years or so that I would probably never get pregnant. I'm 34 and I'll be 35 in August.

I go in for a D&C on the 13th because I still haven't started cramping or bleeding..even tho the baby has apparently been "gone" for over two weeks.

My husband is taking it really hard... I'm still kind of numb. Probably won't start freaking out til the day of surgery. I still feel pregnant which really sucks. My pregnancy symptoms got worse the last 3 weeks...and the baby wasn't growing the whole time. :( Not sure how to process everything...but I know I want to try again asap. Dr wants me to wait three months but I don't want to wait that long. :(

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I remember the day I went in for my supposed to be 11 week ultrasound to learn that my baby stopped growing at 8-9 weeks with no heartbeat. Worse news of my life. I had a d&c because I didn’t want to wait and the fact my body didn’t let me know for weeks made me so upset. My doctor next really gave me an answer as to when I could try again she just said to refrain from sex 2 weeks after d&c. I went through a rough time for a few weeks and found things to occupy myself working out/ working/ things to take my mind off it well we had sex 3 weeks after d&c and my body ovulated and I got pregnant.. I am currently 23 weeks tmrw with our baby girl. So do what makes you feels good and when your ready and I knew right after my d&c I wanted to try asap! My guardian angels were looking over me ❤️ so sorry for your loss it is something we will never forget.

Ju

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I had a dandc with twins at ten weeks. We started trying exactly one cycle after and I’m now 15 weeks with a little boy. I was 38 with the twins and 39 now. Wishing you all the best don’t think for a minute your too old.

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I'm so sorry for your loss, and my heart aches with grief for you. I also suffered a silent miscarriage with my first pregnancy, baby had stopped growing in week 10 and we didn't find out until week 12 after an ultrasound and the horrible phrase "no heartbeat", and had my D&C two days later as like you my body showed no signs of giving up on the pregnancy. I hope you have a good support group during this time of loss, I know I needed mine. 💔

La

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Take time to heal, listen to your gut. I know you want a baby right away after I can relate. I would take it as in healing my body and my heart. We never are completely heal from the loss of our baby’s but heal in a way as ready to go through it again whatever we get to keep it or not. It took me 2 years to be ready. I thought I was but I truly was not.. I unexpectedly got pregnant. You will get your turn don’t let your age scare you away. You got time, you’re strong and it will be okay.. hugs. Believe 🌈💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓

La

Laura • May 8, 2019
Also I don’t know if you been through surgery, but it’s not as painful, the hardest part for me was the before I had to wait hours and hours since I got inserted pill to be ready, I felt like I was giving birth in a seat area.. after though it’s like you slept for seconds and you wake up... the hardest part is the emotional for me. The surgery is fine and was pain free... hugs