Same arguments

I just need to vent rn.. So my boyfriend and I have been arguing about the same thing for the past couple of months. We are good then we argue again. For me it’s something like I want a surprise gift maybe some flowers or a card. Because we’ve been together for almost a year and I haven’t gotten no gift from him. Like sometime in December he said he couldn’t get me anything because he was trying to save up for his apartment and then once he got his apartment he got injured so he was out of a job for about 4 months. I said I understood where he was coming from so I didn’t bring it up for several of months. So when he got back up on his feet. So, I brought it up again today and he got really mad at me.

So basically.. He told me you said that you understand before so why are you with me if you are not happy, he feels like I’m lying to him because I bring it sometimes but not that much. It’s not that I’m lying sometimes I want a surprise gift so I can feel special 😔. He also said he is tired of talking about that subject and that is his last time talking about it. He said he is trying to focus on getting back up on his feet, and get back to feeling spiritually, physically, and emotionally content. Basically he was saying he is trying to work on himself. So I just left it alone and I said I’ll never bring it up again.

So before that conversation he told me that I was wrong for being negative with his sister. Basically his sister and I were joking and having fun. She said some stuff about him and I laughed etc. I didn’t know I was coming off as negative I thought I was just playing. So I apologize to him and I said that I will never do it again. He also said that when he went to his house to grab something right quick he felt alone because I stayed in the car and he went up by himself. So we almost broke up over that today.. I just feel like crap I want to be a good girlfriend. Every time we argue he always threatens me with a break up. And I walked him why he does that he said that he feels like I’m not happy. But I don’t have too many complications about things. I told him if he is not happy with me break up with me! Then, he changed his mind to stay with me. It’s like he wants me to make the decision to break up (idk why he wants me to make the decision).

Also, whenever he tells me how he feels at like. He said: I don’t believe in his goals, I don’t know what I’m talking about sometimes, my responses seems biased and ingenue, I brush stuff off like I don’t care, he needs someone who can be a helpmate who is there for him, he said I’m too sensitive, I give the impression that I don’t know what I’m talking about, he thinks I’m not honest with him, and when he is tells me stuff he feels like I can’t handle his honesty. So this argument happened last month. But I just said sorry and I’ll do better.