Hey everyone, so a little back story before I get into my concerns/ questions. I met the man I’m “dating” online, he is Chinese, and I’m hispanic. Things have moved along pretty fast for each other, we had sex the first time we met ( this isn’t typically my thing ) and ever since than we been seeing each other very regularly ( been speaking for almost two months).

Now over the course of those weeks that past, me and him have came across some cultural differences that I knew would present themselves anyways, and I was accepting of it. He isn’t a man of words but mainly actions. And he struggles real hard with his emotions and feelings, when for me I can express what I feel and think easily. Now he told me his parents want him with a Korean women, because they will take care for him the best. Then he also stated he wouldn’t present a girl to them until they are engaged, ok thats fine. Just the Korean comment threw me off. So that has been in the back of my mind, I’m hispanic.

Now he does speak about me to his friends, and probably is more open with them about how he feels than me. But recently when I spoke to my mother she told me something ignorant but it stuck with me.... “ asians don’t marry outside their race, I hope you know.” So I don’t know why Ive been allowing this stupid comment to hurt me, because I do like him a lot. And we had our moments where we said how we felt, but maybe he is only with me for the experience. Now I say this because he mentioned doing anal, and I asked him has he ever done it. He told me no, so I asked him have you any dated asian women and he told me “ yes, they are very traditional and aren’t open to try stuff differently.” Now he was born here, and grew up here. So I felt ( maybe my anxiety ) he is with me for the experience even though we are dating, and in no rush what so ever. So than my mothers comment went into the mix, and since yesterday I been feeling insecure about myself. Is he with me just to experience different sexual fantasies he has.... we established we are exclusively dating. But I’m now thinking I’m just something fun....

I do suffer from a lot of anxiety and depression, he suffers from anxiety too. So he can sympathize with me at times... but he questions a lot why I always wanna talk about feelings when he doesn’t even tell his parents he loves them. So I bet its hard for him to open up to me....