I don’t want to make this a huge post but it may end up being that way and I apologize in advance.

I have been with my husband since Sophomore year of high school, I started college and he joined the army very shortly after our graduation. He was deployed very soon after basic so we didn’t get married until he came home. We have now been married for almost 6 months, in our own home on a military base, and we are both 20 years old. Before I moved here my husband had a drink here and there with work buddies and they hung out. But ever since his deployment it has been daily drinking. As soon as he gets home from work it’s a shot and beer in hand, it will continue throughout the evening until he passes out drunk. Then the weekend comes and he drinks from the time he wakes up to the time he passes out drunk. I have tried numerous times talking to him, begging him to slow down, and he says he’s fine. His parents are now messaging and calling me and telling me I need to stop him and I need to tell his friends to stop enabling him. But I’ve done all I can do on my end and begging anyone for help but they all say “it’s a phase” “he won’t be like this long”. I’m venting but I’m also asking for advice. I love him but I can’t watch him drink himself to death (family history from both sides of the family, many deaths from alcoholism)

UPDATE: He has been doing much better and hardly drank at all this week and when he did he would make sure I was ok with it. He had buddies from work come over, team leaders etc. and they talked to him about it we are all working together to help him and his parents have thanked me for helping. I had a conversation with both of them about how I felt and we are on the same page. Thank you ladies !