Ectopic pregnancy loss

Lori

On April 30th I went in to the ER with extreme pain on my left side and back. 4-5 hours into being there they came in and told us we were pregnant. I felt so much joy because we have been trying for so long only to tell myself not to get excited because I knew something was very wrong. Another 4-5 hours passed in the ER and my OB luckily was on call and made it up there. I was bleeding for 5+ hours and the nurses tried to tell me it’s okay to go home because they think it’s just kidney stones. She did an internal ultrasound and said we have to emergency surgery because I have been bleeding internally and they think a cyst ruptured or tube ruptured. Shortly after surgery I wake up and first thing out of my mouth was “Did the baby make it? Was it ectopic?” And the baby unfortunately did not make it they said. There wasn’t anything I could have done nor them. What breaks my heart is that no one is even acting like it was a baby. I was 6-8 weeks along is what they told me. I had no idea I was pregnant because I had just taken a test before my last period and it was negative. I had one positive at the end of February but nothing after. The only reason they even knew I was pregnant was by testing my blood. I am so heartbroken and no one understands why. I lost a baby. I don’t care if he or she was 6-8 weeks along it was still a baby regardless to me. I just want them to understand It’s normal for me to grieve this loss. Sorry if this is all jumbled or didn’t make any sense. I just need some support because no one cares i feel like.