Coming Home 2AM?!

Okay ladies, so I need some opinions about what happened with my fiancé and I last night.

I am currently away on vacation and he was working yesterday. He was supposed to be home at 7 pm and it was getting to be about 8 and I still hadn’t heard from him. He has to drive a lot for work so I always worry and he always call to let me know he got home okay (May seem a bit much but my sister died in a car crash so I’m a little paranoid when it comes to this stuff).

I tried calling his phone and it went straight to voicemail. So I decided to just wait and get ready for bed because I didn’t want to worry over what was probably nothing.

Well...I ended up falling asleep.

At 2 am he finally texts me saying that he just got home from work due to a late sales meeting that went on for too long. For whatever reason he didn’t have service and wasn’t able to get ahold of me. But he closed!

I didn’t respond and figured I’d just text him in the morning. I thought it was a little weird since the latest I’ve ever know him to get home from work is like 11, and that’s pretty rare. But, I was tired so I didn’t overthink it too much.

The next morning I get a text from his coworker asking if everything went okay yesterday since he hadn’t heard from my fiancé. Apparently it was his first day working with a new woman they hired and they were wondering what my fiancé’s thoughts on her selling “skills” were.

So obviously, I started to assume the worst. He didn’t have signal? He was out till 2 am? He was with some other woman the whole time?

I told his coworker I was away from home, so I wasn’t really sure about any of that stuff. I got off the phone and was about to call my fiancé...

However, I stopped myself because I didn’t want to just get upset or jealous...and it wasn’t like I had any proof of anything.

Here’s where I should mention I have a lot going on. My grandfather just passed away, a lot of family stuff is going on, I’m nearly 38 weeks pregnant, and we’re both pretty stressed over finances and logistical stuff.

In other words, I just don’t have my shit together right now and my hormones over everything aren’t helping.

So instead, I called my best friend and my mom.

They both agreed nothing good happens after 12, but that I should take some time for myself today before dealing with any of it.

So I sent him this:

Ladies, what do I do? I’m just not ready to talk, but I don’t want to come off like I’m punishing him either (especially if he hasn’t done anything). He’s tried calling and messaging all day.

I don’t even think he understands why I’m upset.

Ugh, help!

Update: I got on the phone to talk with him about everything more, since I thought you guys were right and that it shouldn’t be over text and in person wasn’t an immediate option since I’m away.

Honestly, it seemed to make things worse. He wasn’t even in the office as it turns out. He went to to the clients house after work with this woman. They sat on the patio with a fire going and the four of them lost track of time while doing shots. He says he spent some time alone with the woman and both of them got a little drunk, but nothing happened.

I believe him that nothing happened between the two of them (although he did cheat once a few years ago, but that was back in the beginning of our relationship when we were both young and petty).

I’m upset because I feel disrespected. He didn’t even try to let me know anything was going on with work and left me hanging until 2 am. And I’m a little upset that he decided to get drunk instead of being responsible to his family. Idk, does that seem unfair?