Does it bother you when your husband or SO looks at images of girls that are butts in bikinis or naked butts?

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I guess its because I am insecure. My husband years ago has said I have a "secretary ass" in reference that I have a flat butt. He is obsessed with bubble butts and I try and blow it off but I want his attention. Not these images of butts I'll never have. I work out alot and still cant reach a "bubble butt". Also his Instagram is full of these images and he checked almost every girl out he sees to see if she has a nice butt and if she does he doesnt even notice the world around him because he is so lost into her butt. He will literally make me repeat what I was saying or ask what he missed.

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That’s so disrespectful. Have a talk with him about how it makes you feel. If he can’t respect how you feel, I’d be so hurt he doesn’t care about my feelings.

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Honestly all men look it’s natural however your husband is taking it to a very disrespectful level, I know my man is human and I’m sure finds other women attractive but he would 1- never check out women in front of me and if he did it would be a mere glance, and 2- he would never flaunt pics and his desires all over social
Media he needs a good speaking too stand up for yourself you deserve better

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Not all men do that. My husband would never do that to me. If he did I would feel very offended that he felt it necessary to basically rub it in my face. You should let him know that it hurts your feelings and to at least not talk so openly about it. The petty side in me says to do the same thing and see how he likes it but that's no way to solve a disagreement

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Omg that sounds so disrespectful. My husband does not do that,  if he did we would have a very serious conversation about it. Have you expressed how you feel to him?

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Just looking at other people’s bodies is fine with me, as long as it’s not in person, but the fact that he’s at the same time disrespecting you and putting down your body is a red flag.

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Well... my boyfriend and I look at pics or videos of girls together (I'm bi) but that's only when we want to get in the mood. He's being major disrespectful to you.

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So an update. I tried talking to him and he asked where all of this was coming from. So I told him. He says I must be confusing him with an ex or another guy. I literally talk to my mom, dad, and sister. That's it and I remeber when he said that secretary ass comment. I was in the bathroom getting ready for a shower. He was in the door way. But our conversation ended with his remark. I don't even know what to do anymore. I feel like if he was truly attracted to me he wouldn't be like this.

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Are you fucking kidding me? That’s bullshit girl I don’t even know what else to say.

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If my bf does it, he doesn’t do it in front of me.