Salam sisters.

I always have problem with my MIL. We just have different background and ways i think.

But recently, i asked her about muscular dystrophy . Coz i just found out like last year that my husband family have muscular dystrophy history. So when she came to visit us for few days the other day. I had the chance to ask her abt it. Since her husband and two of her children have it. I really want to know abt it. What type of MD yada yada. So when i had the chance i asked her. “

Me:Ummi, my husband doesnt have to check MD?”

Her: No, dont have

I was like huh?

Me: but baba (her husband) has it? What type of MD baba have?

Her: No, dont have

Me: what about the the other two?

Her: No

Me: ummi dont go and check?

Her: No

By this time i ws really dissapointed coz i really want to know. I want to have a lot of children. I always dreaming to have a lot of children. But i just need the support and advice and ask opinion from everyone that matters. Like the doctor what do they think. So i try again.

Me: ummi, my husband doesnt have to check?

Her: if u want to check that what will u do, this is all Allahs doing. If he check, then what ure going to do?

I was snapped coz how can she say like this. She didnt even try. I know that MD doesnt have cure but then they have the thing that make it a bit longer and also they have physiotherapy and phsycholohist and what not. And as for me, if my husband check, then i can plan if i want more babies or not. To me, we will do the best we can. Then only we leave it to the Almighty.

Me: so i said, if go and check then can go and see therapist or something that can make it a but longer (i forgot what that is) but if u have MD detext early, then can gve u something to make ur muscle to become weak take time

then she go wnd talk wbt cancer wnd everything. To me she doesnt even understand what im trying to say. To be honest i talk to her really2 soft coz i really2 want to know. Its really important for me. Its her grandchild too. I know to leave it to Allah but of course we have to know lewrn make effort so that Allah can see we are trying. If we try, but still have, then its okay.

Her: she asked me what would u want to do if go an check?

Me: i wws really annoyed with her at that time, i just simply said “no need to make baby anymore”

Her: *back to her cancer story* , leave it to Allah .

Me: im sorry, someone is waiting for me. I have to go.

I really thought that i dont have gap with her anymore. Im alwqys awkward with her. Eversince then we talked more. Until two days after my husband told me that ummi thinks im rude coz MD is very personal to her. Im like what?

Im doing this for my baby and future. Pls pray for me and my baby that she is healthy.