I have been on here before for my complaints of my gym obsessed hubby. We had a somewhat neutral period and now it has gotten worse. He came home and told me he was competing. He had been talking to trainers etc. about measuring him, diet plans etc.... (He didn’t ask me, he told me.)

Now weeks later, he has decide to care about my opinion. He stated he would be successful at this if I didn’t like it. He was concerned that his competing would have a negative effect on our relationship. Which it has or else he wouldn’t be asking me. I said that I was not going to be the reason that he wasn’t successful at this because him giving up whatever dream would be just as bad.

My husband works night and has changed his schedule to be more available to workout with his trainers. From Sunday afternoon to Friday afternoon, my children do not see him. Him and I speak a few words in passing if I happen to be up nursing the baby when he lives for work.

Additionally, we were drowning financially before this (two in childcare but only for 3 more months!) and now it is even worse. As we are now spending 200 to 250 a week on groceries plus the money he spending to buy protein shakes daily. Prior to this we (I) budgeted to about 150 a week... When I discuss our food/money situation, he just doesn’t get it. He gets angry at me for not eating meals throughout the week and not buying groceries for myself. However, my lack of eating allowed me to save enough money to renew/register our cars this month. I explained that I can’t continue because my supply is decreasing. (I am breastfeeding our son.) He tells me who is going to look into refinancing our house as a solution.

I am at loss. He is not receptive about anything. Just needed to vent I guess. I don’t really see anything changing but our credit card debt.