Men 🤦🏻‍♀️ Why can’t they make the effort to PUT you in the mood instead of just hope you are?

I’m 21 weeks pregnant and take care of a 14 month old all day and don’t feel like having sex a lot. My husband will hug me and squeeze a boob, as if to ask “Can we?” or he’ll joke around (like a child lmfao) and be like wow look my penis is huge.... in hopes that he’ll make me laugh and get sex and his penis on my mind 😂

I feel bad that his boob grabs and penis jokes aren’t putting me in the mood but then I was laughing trying to think about HOW on earth men don’t get it?? Like he’d rather shoot his shot with a boob grab and get rejected 9 times out of 10 instead of actually putting in the effort to GET me in the mood.

If he told me to go take a bath and get in bed naked so he could give me a massage...... My clothes would be off in a heartbeat 😂. And if he gave me a decent massage, I would be so relaxed and happy that my legs would just open on their own 😂🤣😂🤣

My husband wouldn’t get rejected 9/10...... he would SCORE 9/10 if he PUT me in the mood instead of pray and hope that I am when he comes home and squeezes my boob while I’m huge and pregnant and uncomfortable and covered in food and baby poop. 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

(I’ve told him many times how much I would die for a massage and he’s always “too tired” or “doesn’t feel like it” LMAO....another reason why I’m not jumping to respond to his boob grabs)