My mother had me when she was 18. While she loves us very much and is an amazing supporter and friend..... she’s not the best at parenting or teaching or leading. I think I turned out okay because my mom and I lived with my grandparents and they stepped in and took a huge role in my upringing, disciplining me, teaching me right and wrong and always encouraging school. When I was 8, my mother married a guy and we moved in with him and they had my little brother. The next 10 years were spent with my mother in a mentally abusive relationship and an extremely chaotic unstable household. They divorced when my brother was 10. I think because my mom was hoping to do it right and be better for my brother, and that didnt happen... she felt guilty and babied him. My brother is now 18 and has never had to wash a dish, do laundry, have a job or have consequences for not doing well in school. My mother doesnt hold him responsible for anything. He’s going to be the 40 year old man, still living in my moms apartment not bathing or doing dishes. 😫😫 When I try to talk sense into them, they get offended and tell me to mind my business. I just hate seeing my brother go down this road. My mom can’t even take care of herself financially but she’ll never ask my brother for anything even though he lives under her roof. Literally kills me to watch. Like you can’t even hold him responsible for loading the dishwasher?!?!? Makes me so sad.